17 Reasons Your Problems Are a Good Thing

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Why It’s Good To Take A Beating Every Now and Then…

“I don’t want to die without any scars.”

― Chuck Palahniuk

Even if you have a handful of tickets for the free ride, no one gets off totally scot-free, and as Jim Morrison so eloquently reminded us, “No one here gets out alive”

While it’s true that life is full of high mountains with amazing views, between every mountain top there’s a low valley where the nights are dark. I spent a lot of years wanting the mountain top, without the hike. I wanted just the good stuff, and none of the bad.

It sounded good anyway, still does.

I tried to find it in everything from pill bottles, to fat bank accounts of financial security, to a marijuana business, to the “pay-by-the-week motel life”, with tin foil covering the windows and knocks on the door at 3am from crack addicts trying to cop $5 by selling things like stolen bikes and beat up old microwaves. The Jehovah’s Witness’s left us alone, but the crack heads were relentless.

At least my rent was only $125 a week and I could get away with part time at a minimum wage job.

I spent a lot of years running from pain, problems, fears, responsibilities and life. But the more I tried to escape everything, the more problems I had.

“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”

Bruce Lee

I’ve also walked the line. Self-help and spiritual books, meditation, affirmations, visualizations, eating healthy, going to church, seeing shrinks, working out, helping others, contributing lots of money to good causes, and being an all around good guy. In fact, this is closer to the path I do my best to walk today. Still, this path is loaded with problems around every bend.

In fact, I’ve found that when you’re on the right path, sometimes you’re presented with the most problems, challenges and tests.

No matter which road we travel, we’re gonna run into all kinds of speed bumps, pot holes, shady characters, engine troubles, accidents, citations, bad weather and sometimes we just gotta pullover and go pee.

“Life is just one damned thing after another”

Elbert Hubbard

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You don’t always get to be the windshield

It may seem, that any way you go about it, we’re fucked.

Or are we?

In between the victories and orgasms, as we take our beatings and chalk up our losses, we are offered chances to either grow and become stronger, or to wither and die.

We either feed the white wolf inside of us or the black wolf. The problem with the black wolf is, the more you feed him, the more he feeds on you.

This post isn’t to share some lofty philosophy with you. I write this from my own experience, and I’m still learning as I go.

Even right now I have financial issues, got some health things going on, and am in the middle of an extremely painful custody dispute. Not to get into a self-indulgent blues jam here, cuz that’s not what this is about and I’m sure you’ve gotta fat list of problems of your own.

I just want you to know where I’m coming from, and that the important thing to realize is, even with our long list of problems, we still have damn good lives. That’s what this post is about.

“Sometimes you’re the windshield; sometimes you’re the bug”

Mark Knopfler

If you’re going through some tough stuff, or wanna be better prepared for next time you do, I think you’ll find this list helpful.

Not everyone seems capable of turning the trials and seemingly bad shit that happens to them into something positive. But if you’re willing to be open, to grow and to learn, which if you’re reading this blog I’m gonna make the fair assumption that you are, then I have no doubts that as life tosses you one lemon after another, you’re gonna make the biggest baddest glass of ice cold lemonade this world has ever seen.

1. It Usually Ain’t As Bad As You Think

No matter what you’re going through, I bet you still have it pretty damned good. Like fresh running water, a roof over your head, and you probably have eyes, legs and a mouth to help you do shit like read, walk and talk

And I’m guessing you were born into a life better than this:

Be grateful for this stuff, it’s easy to get caught up in your problems, but when compared to real problems, most of them really aren’t that big of a deal.

2. You Become Stronger

The beating you take, the tougher you become. The more shit you overcome, the stronger you become.

“Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the strength, move on”

Henry Rollins

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3. Opportunity To Turn Within

Pain and problems offer us chances to turn within and to something greater than can be seen with the eyes and felt with the senses.

Call it whatever you will, we’re connected to something much bigger than our haircut and designer jeans

4. You Learn

When we make mistakes and get our asses kicked by life, we learn valuable lessons. Like don’t touch the hot stove again.

Some of us ( me ) typically don’t learn any other way.

Mistakes seem to be my greatest teachers.

And there are some of us ( me again ) who keep touching that damn stove over and over to make sure it still burns. But eventually, I become convinced that that mother fucker is hot.

5. The Gift of Acceptance

Problems offer us the chance to learn the art of acceptance, one of the most important things there is when it comes to being happy.

Resisting reality is a direct line to misery. Acceptance is the way to peace.

6. Keeps You Humble

Imagine how big your head would get if everything in life just flowed your way? Thank God this isn’t the case for any of us

If you met someone who never had any problems, you’d probably think they were a dick. A boring and weak dick.

You might be a little jealous of them, but you’d still think they were dick.

Trust me, you do not wanna be that guy.

7. Builds Character

Problems give us character. Period.

8. Makes Life Interesting

Problems make our lives interesting and exciting. Ever see a good movie, read a good book or watch a good TV show where the protagonist has no problems.

No.

Who do you a prefer, a perfect hero or the guy who’s got some problems, a few personal demons and really needs to take a long deep look into his own eyes before he is able to do great things?

It’s why characters like that House dude and Dirty Harry become so popular.

9. You Get To Be Awesome

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People who have overcome serious shit are awesome.

Who doesn’t love Robert Downey Jr.?

10. It Brings People Together

Problems give us opportunities to turn to our friends and family in times of need, and opportunities for them to turn to us.

These are when the real bonds are created. Especially if you’ve been down in the foxhole together.

11. You Get To Carry The Message

We are able to take the lessons we learn in battle and use those to better help others who are going through shit of their own. Allowing our message to empower others.

And today, with things like Facebook, Twitter and blogs, your message can help people all over the world.

12. It’s What Makes You Great

The times you proved to the world and yourself what the fuck you’re all about, are what make you great

I look at my life and it’s not any great things I’ve done that makes me feel stronger, wiser and a better, kinder person.

It’s the gnarly shit I’ve been through and eventually overcame.

13. Problems Can Make You Happier

Many people who have gone through real intense shit from divorce, to prison time, to losing a limb, to cancer… will tell you they are happy they went through it and wouldn’t change a thing.

I knew this dude who was a miserable son of a bitch. He got cancer, ended up realizing what was truly important in life, and after the cancer he became so much happier than he ever had been in his entire life. He swears that getting cancer was the best thing that ever happened to him.

This is not uncommon among cancer survivors.

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Chicks dig em’

Nuff said

15. You Get To Realize What’s Important

Like my friend who got cancer, you realize what’s important in life beyond money, sex, good times and looking like a million bucks.

Sometime it takes great loss to realize what you have and what you should be focusing on

16. Something Good Always Comes Out Of It

There’s something great to come out of every adversity, especially if you stay out of the negative thinking and look for the good.

If you just bum out on the whole thing, you’ll probably miss it.

Look for it, it makes the beatings worth it.

17. You’ll Have Awesome Stories

You will have amazing stories to tell your Grandchildren… real ones, about the crazy shit you went through and overcame, encouraging them to keep moving forward in life no matter what.

And they’ll be all ears, cuz’ the story involves conflict and resolution. It involves you overcoming great adversity, something all great stories are made of.

There ya have it. Maybe you’re going through some shit right now or maybe you’re temporarily sailing on smooth waters. Life is full of victories and ass beatings, and often times it’s the tough shit we go through that makes us who we are.

Move forward, no matter what. Keep your eye on the ball and regardless of what kind of sucker punch gets thrown at ya, just keep getting up, moving forward and learning as you go. Becoming a better person with every step you take.

When live dishes you out a beating, get right back up and keep swinging.

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“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!”

Rocky Balboa

Talk soon,

Big Chris

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  1. I am loving these list posts. You are truly one of the best bloggers around. Your style of writing is so unique, no wonder why your blog is popular. You write about the truth’s of life and that is what I love. Your not over here trying to impress anyone, you are just you… and thats awesome. Keep it up. I look forward to your posts.

  2. Hey Chris,
    Each point struck home for me.
    You see, as I type this it’s 5am on a Sunday. I am waiting for panadol to kick in as I can’t sleep. The reason is that having had open heart surgery 30 days ago, my sternum was cut and pulled open for 4 hours. All this so the surgeon could get his hands in.
    After that they wire your sternum back again and stitch you up.
    I explain this as a precursor to my real point. I’ve never been happier.
    The peace of mind is not because of the extension to my lifespan I’ve been given.
    It’s the perspective I’ve been given.
    So yes, your difficulties transport you to the next level in life. They are an elevator to the next floor that has a better view.
    And the view is pretty good from where I sit in the darkness waiting for the Panadol to keep him.
    Life is good.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Damn Sean, very powerful and inspiring … Thank u so much for sharing and being a living example of triumph over the things that try to hold us down

      I love the elevator thing with the view, I’ve never heard that before, love it

      Thanks again bud, wishing you well

  3. Oops – instead of ‘keep him’ read ‘kick in’.
    But the auto correct made me think.
    Sean

  4. Great Article Chris, you know sometimes you gotta go through the fire to burn off all the crap that’s clinging to your life, and come out a better man.

    Take care brother
    Daniel

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Daniel, I love that, going through the fire to burn off the crap that’s clinging to your life

      thanks for sharing Daniel

  5. I cant remember how I stumbled on to your site, but I’ve been receiving your emails and following you for awhile now. This was a great post, and one I can so relate to. Every one of the 17 items hit home for me. I’m lying in bed getting ready for my day and find myself reminiscing. I’ve been married three times, twice to the same woman. I made millions and lost all of it plus another $600K. I have four years of probation left and $200K of restitution to pay on a crime I did not commit (repercussions from wife number three). My airplane went down in the Strawberry mountains some years ago and exploded on impact. I suffered 3rd and 4th degree burns over 75% of my body along with other injuries. It laid me up for 6 1/2 years while I endured 33 surgeries and endless physical therapy. As I lay here in bed, scarred and bent from head to toe, typing with crippled hands, broke and hundred of thousands of dollars in debt, I read your blog post and reflected on this thing called life. I sort of chuckled, and found myself saying “is that all you’ve got? That’s your best shot?… HA! Let’s see what else you can find to throw at me!” I have one son who is 26 years old. He’s just starting his adult life and is already suffering from his own poor decisions as well as dealing with a few things that landed in his lap just because. He is my inspiration and my reason for living. I want him to see me punching and swinging, holding my head high as I continue to do battle with life. If I’m able to get out of this mess remains to be seen. As it stands though, it’s a great opportunity to show my son that you always keep swinging and never say die. Thanks for the post. It made me think. was a great read, and an encouragement to me as I start my day.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Holy shit Rich, your comment is one of the most powerful things I’ve read in a long time

      Dude, you’re True Grit

      thank you soooooooooo much for sharing this, powerful stuff brother, powerful stuff

    • Rich
      your 3rd to last sentence: “If I’m able to get out of this mess remains to be seen.” From where I sit, you have. You’re not feeling sorry for yourself, though I’m sure you have in the past. You’re not full of despair, though I’m sure you have been in the past. You’re not full of negative thoughts about yourself, though I am sure you have been in the past. You’re not blaming someone else, though I am sure you have in the past. You’ve got reasons to live, though I am sure in the past you thought you had none.

      Rich, keep driving on. Keep punching back. Keep standing up. And keep on keeping on. A mentor of mine once said that the measure of a man is not the strength of the punch that knocks him down, but how many times that man gets back up. Many variations of that sentiment are around; that one resonates with me. So keep getting up, Rich.

  6. Big Chris,
    I dig how You speak the Truth, Kick My Azz, and freakin’ Motivate the crap outta me simultaneously, Bro!

    Keep on writing, Chris. You are a continuing inspiration for me and my own blog/life rantings, mi Amigo!

    Respect.
    -A.D. Christian

  7. shondelle says:

    Wow. that video on Liberia was heavy. I didn’t intend to watch the whole thing but Ii got completely sucked in. Thanks again for sharing your heart!

  8. Like it?… I LOVE IT! Awesome stuff Chris, reading your stuff always get’s me pumped… Thanks for sharing :-)

  9. I love your posts. They consistently inspire me. You write how I think. I know when I open a post of yours that something amazing is coming my way. Never stop. You are doing what you were meant to do. Now, I must go share this…

  10. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Your words are appreciated my friend

  11. Man Chris I NEVER ever get tired of that quote from Rocky.

    I still get chills when I watch that scene. It’s one of the biggest truths in life.

    BTW…is that your scar in the photo? Yeouch!

  12. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Hey Kevin, no man, not my scar brother

    I’ve got some gnarly ones, but I thought that one looked cooler

  13. One of the best articles I have ever read!
    Thank you Chris for giving a slap in our face and start taking live by the horns and keep getting up stronger than ever.
    Take care!

  14. You know, I run a million dollar Strength & Conditioning Facility. Better yet, I run my own business. I have a beautiful wife and two kids. I am back in church. I’m about to build and own my own home and be debt free.

    All my hard work finally paid off.

    Suddenly, it was all too good to be true. So, it became no more. Reality kicked in and slapped me in the face. Let’s just say, I don’t have everything mentioned above anymore.

    You can’t have everything in life though. Smooth waters are just the quiet before the storm. I couldn’t be happier though. I have what matters most.

    The rest was just extra. Everything has a time and a place. Problems make you stronger. I went through some problems to build that picture perfect picture. Then, more problems came. I thought the story was pretty amazing where I left off at the top. But, this is not a fairy tale and this is not a happy ending.

    You would be amazed if you knew what the future had in store for me. You would be amazed if you knew what was in store for you too. But knowing takes the joy of surprise out of life.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Daniel, very powerful man

      WOW

      This is so true and I love it:

      “You would be amazed if you knew what the future had in store for me. You would be amazed if you knew what was in store for you too. But knowing takes the joy of surprise out of life.”

  15. Soon as I read the post title, I was waiting for #17. My story is what’s made me so successful and it’s what allows others to feel empathy and relate to me so well (and me to them!)

    As always, I LOVE reading your posts.

  16. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    right on Lisa, love it

    yep, that 17 is a biggie

    thanks for your kind words (=

  17. Your words are helping me from going under…..thank you

    X

  18. “There has never yet been a man in our history who led a life of ease whose name is worth remembering.” – Theodore Roosevelt

    Sounds like you and he had a bit in common…

    SP

  19. I feel turbo charged and inspired after reading this. I’m going to share it with as many people as I can. Thank you Chris, I love reading your stuff.

  20. Great post agai . You’re as real as it gets

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Thanks Freddy

      Believe it or not, I used to be as fake as it gets

      We’re all still pretty fake, me included, just doin my best to live Truth and strip away as much bullshit I can

      appreciate it brother

  21. AWESOME article – much better than the previous ones because of the more organized content and the images. Big congrats!

    Also it would be great if you would implement Facebook comments – to avoid introducing my data.

    I’m here to support you and your message. Big up for you, brotha’!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      I thanks Lulian

      Appreciate the feedback, glad you like the way it’s organized, I’ll keep that in mind for future posts

      I have facebook comments and I like them, but sometimes they just don’t work correctly, like right now on Kickbacklife they keep disappearing on me

      but I do appreciate the feedback, always open to it

  22. Hi Chris,
    This blog post couldn’t have been at a better time. I have been through a lot with my business in the last 5 – 6 months. I feel like a complete idiot now after reading some of the other comments. My “problems” are really not that bad. So what if I almost lost my business, I can always rebuild and kick ass. Thanks again for your very blunt posts. I need to read this kind of stuff to keep me in line.
    Rae Anne

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      hey thanks Rae

      money problems can always be fixed

      I knew a dude who did like 15 years in prison for a crime he didn’t commit, it was actually a pretty famous case

      He thought he would die there

      Now that’s a problem!

  23. Shaun Brant says:

    “as we take our beatings and chalk up our losses, we are offered chances to either grow and become stronger, or to wither and die.” I love this quote, it is so true. Thanks for putting things into perspective, we deal with many problems, challenges and defeats in our lives, but If we change our mentality to the thinking that what doesn’t kills us makes us stronger we can take all this adversity in our stride and maybe even embrace and seek the things that make us stronger, sharper better people.

    “That which fights us makes us stronger” Thanks for speaking the truth yet again, this post like your others, is something that will help get my mind in the right place when I start to get bummed out about some bad thing that has happened to me. Again you have revealed your amazing insight and ability to see the bigger picture in life, and I am very grateful you are continuing to share your priceless knowledge with us.

  24. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    damn shaun, I am humbled

    thank you

  25. You really have a way of touching one’s life. Probably it is due to the fact that you’ve gone through all of it, learned your lessons, realized what really matters in life and now you are on a mission to spread it! ;) Great post as always!

    Ines

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Thanks Ines

      I’m glad my stuff is resonating with you

      it’s crazy, I used to be so bored by the things that TRULY have meaning to me today

      (=

  26. Maureen says:

    Reading this article brought tears to my eyes. Finally, I am thinking….Chris is someone down to earth, who speaks a language I understand. I have read many books and articles on the internet and have listened to my therapist on theories about trauma, shame, depression, anxiety, fear, repressed feelings, psyco-babble, etc. And I have tried to apply these theories and suggestions. Some have helped a little..some have left be feeling worse, hopeless, like I am damaged goods.

    But reading your articles and reading the comments of others really gives me a true sense and belief that I am not alone….we are in it together. I gain strength and a sense of pride from it. I have faults, I have made mistakes and still do, I fear, I fall down and sometimes stay there or sometimes get up (it depends on how I am feeling), I am struggling, ……..I am human. You and others here give me inspiration.

    “So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key.”
    ~The Eagles, “Already Gone”

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey Maureen thank you so much for your kind words. Great line from the eagles song, so true

      You’re on your journey, the answers are appearing (=

  27. More great stuff…. thanks

  28. Awesome post. I’ve done a lot of thinking along the lines of #8. Such a good point. I even wrote a post about it. An example I used was along the lines of “Would you play super mario if you encountered no obstacles and just walked to the right the whole time?”

    Good stuff man. I’m glad I read this before starting the week.

    Thanks.

    -Stevie P

  29. Well said… and I think I will share it

  30. Hey Chris, what a great twin soul and brother soul of mine you are. Love you for how you feel and think. Your findings are exactly my findings. I’ve been going through struggle since I was kid (beaten and abused and bullied) and it’s not end of it yet and right now I’m in the mid of bloody mess (having no home, sometimes not enough to eat, having high education, living in foreign country). I tried to end it all many times, yet each time I wake up to the new day and kick myself to keep going. One day, after unexpectedly waking up, I sat down with myself and made it simple ‘look you have lots of shit going on now, you’re working hard on tackling it step by step, keep working hard, don’t lose focus. two things you have to choose from: either be miserable and let the shit screw your day or be happy and strong as the shit will not just go away’. I decided to be a very fu**ing HAPPY person despite the shit and suffering I’ve been going on all my 35 years of my life. I don’t have money to go out and socialize, but my life is not at all boring, I can hardly catch up with everything I do. And no I’m not wearing make up and designer clothes and indulging on processed food. I’m simple girl, working out, taking care of my health, training combatives which really helps me push through the nights sometimes, when my mind wades through dark thoughts. I was so happy I read your points. It confirms to me I’m not the only one struggling and actually following the RIGTH path. Thank you Chris. Be blessed and NEVER ever give up, don’t let suckers take your place or enjoy your space under the sun. Love to you bro! Romi

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Holy shit Romi

      Your words here are so inspiring

      You’re a great journey Girl, and it shines through right here in this comment

      Thank you so much for sharing this Romi, great things are headed your way, both inner and outer (=

  31. Hello Chris,
    On the 23rd of May I celebrate my 12th lifeday or “glad to be alive day”. May 23rd ’91 I was hit by a truck while riding my bicycle. My back was broken, I had lots of injuries, and looked like I’d been about beaten to death. But my brain took the worst of it. I was a fireman then, and I dealt with the physical pain pretty well but the way my brain was functioning was really bad. After the first month I started realizing how deep a pit I was in and how much a mess my mind was. I stuttered, couldn’t speak clearly because I couldn’t think clearly. Part of my brain healed faster but that was the part that realized how slow I had become and then I got really scared. Since I couldn’t stay scared I got mad, and the mad got dark. I was driven by my friends to Dr. appointments when I got out of the hospital because I couldn’t drive and to look outside looked like the world, and all the cars were going super fast forward like in the movies. I had to learn how to talk again, how to do math. I had nerve damage in my face and I would chew through the inside of my mouth when I ate and I would bleed on my plate of food. I was so embarrassed and scared. I kept fighting and trying to get strong again. I loved to ride my bike and I didn’t want to admit defeat so one day I got on my bike and rode into the street. The world spun, I nearly threw up and I put both feet on the ground. I walked back to the garage…
    I put my bike in the trainer, drew a big black dot on the garage wall, got on my bike, stared at the dot and rode.
    Over time I got stronger, my back healed, I started doing everything I could do to get better. My mind started to clear, and I could speak like I always had. 6 months after my accident I came back to work at the fire department. I resumed being a paramedic, and the next year I was promoted.
    I was in a lot of physical pain but I never had the fear from when my brain was a mess.
    I worked hard, I think I was also lucky, and I think I was really blessed.
    Your not supposed to live when a Ford Expedition hits you when it’s dong 40mph.
    Today I’m a retired fireman. Loving my wife and daughter every day. Lot’s of struggles, some really big ones too. But it’s alright.
    It’s gonna be fine…

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Holy shit Bill

      Hey thanks for sharing this, very inspiring man

      I’m at a loss for words

      I REALLY appreciate you taking the time to tell this story here brother, powerful, powerful stuff.

      You are blessed

  32. Read this again and had another thought…

    At the very, very least, problems in life give us experience, and you know what you can trade experience for? Damn right…INCOME. Experience is one of the most marketable things in existence. USE IT!

  33. Thank you again Chris! I needed this today as a reminder

  34. Ryan Dayton says:

    I just came across your site recently from a friend who shared it on Facebook and I must say that I love it. Real talk. I wish I would’ve come across it sooner, but never the less, your words are inspiring and I cant get enough. Thanks Chris!

  35. MrWhite says:

    I used to think the universe was against me, then I realized it was trying to teach me things I wasn’t paying attention to. Don’t beat yourself up over the mistakes, but reflect on the lessons they teach you. This is a great blog. Its a handbook for BS free living.

    “The world breaks everyone and afterword some are strong at the broken places.” – Hemingway

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Mr White ( Great name for a Tarantino flick )

      I used to think it was against me too, and fortunately have come to the same realization you have

      And this:

      “The world breaks everyone and afterword some are strong at the broken places.” – Hemingway

      is badass

  36. Brigitte says:

    Major points for mentioning one of my favorite actors (and a decent guy) RD, Jr.

    Oh….. and the post itself was pretty awesome, too. :)

  37. Noelle Page says:

    What a great post! I too have come out of a very difficult last decade, dealing with divorce, custody, trusting the wrong people and feeling very isolated and ultimately humiliated. Sometimes it’s just a matter of outlasting all the forces that are trying to take you down. Eventually, those circumstances did come to an end and I am a stronger and more confident lady than I ever could have been. My two sons are wonderful young people and it was all worth it, we all survived and the dark stuff might have won the battle temporarily but I see now I totally won the war. I like what you said Chris about forgiveness and leaving people up to their own devices, their own nature will come back after them in time and it did.. I got the last laugh and I took the high road, I’m very proud of that because my boys witnessed it from me and no one can take it from me. Love your insightful words, very real and encouraging!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Noelle, I just finished a post I think you’ll like about making a comeback, gonna publish soon

      Happy where your journey has taken you (=

  38. Sandy Kingsley says:

    Hi Chris,

    A friend posted this on Facebook. Love your style. I can so relate to what you said. Within a year, I filed for divorce and was diagnosed with cancer. 2 years out from treatment and divorced, I have less than I’ve ever had (material stuff, that is) and happier than I’ve ever been in my life. Enough said.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      hey thanks for sharing this Sandy

      funny how we find our way to happiness sometimes

      I’ve talked to many others who’ve had the same experience as you ( as well as myself – minus the cancer part )

      you’re a trooper Girl

  39. Chris:

    I am just now reading this old blog post, so I hope you and your wife have worked things out or if you haven’t, at least focused on the most important thing….THE KIDS.

    I wrote you in another blog post about Maslow’s Hiearchy of Needs. In life, we get so consumed about the almighty dollar (the bible tells us the “The love of Money is the Root of all Evil”) that we tend to forget about Faith, Family, Friends, and Fitness, which I wrote to you about before in the other blog post.

    That is the big reason bro why I don’t get into all the Fitness Marketing, Internet Marketing, etc…. because 9 times out of 10, the focus is always, always, about money.

    Don’t get me wrong, money makes the world go around and we do need money to survive, but the problem is, how much is enough?

    There is an old story about a guy who makes 2-3 billion a year and what does the guy want, 4 billion. The point is, no matter how much we make, it seems some spouse, child, relative, coworker, friend, etc… wants more of it or wants to try and take you down in the process or fight you for some of that money.

    I think when we invision our life or how we want to see our future, we ALL should take money out of the equation.

    I read something recently at a site for money trading and the guy says “The key I always tell people is learn how NOT to lose money not how to make it.”

    It’s unfortunate, but many of the wealthiest people no this part of their life, even if they are not close to their God or faith, they are smart with things set in place like prenups, lawyers, contracts, etc…..WHY…..because man is naturally evil and we all have sin in us, so when things go totally FUBAR (Fucked Up Beyond All Recognition), we are able to improvise, adapt, and overcome….(Sorry for the Heartbreak Ridge reference, lol lol).

    I used to teach my marketing students, life is like the Stragetic Marketing Process….you PLAN, EXECUTE, and CONTROL / FOLLOW-UP…..if you always have a plan, and then a contigency plan A, B, C, etc… and execute them properly and always reevaluate, you will most likely always stay ahead of any issues, obstacles, trials, or tribulations that come your way or at least be able to deal with them in the right way.

    You are right Chris, God only gives us what we can handle and it’s a guarantee he is teaching us a lesson when we feel we are going through a trial or tribulation.

    I really hope you and your wife see your way back to one another. I have been divorced and now married to my current wife over 17yrs….not a bed of roses, but I made a commitment to her and our child.

    The old saying in life “It’s easy to get a divorce or leave your kids, but it’s harder to stay and work it out”.

    If you are still going through your personal issues, all I can say is “Pray, pray, and pray some more” If she has moved on, be the BEST DAMN DAD you can be and always be there for your kids, no matter what.

    At the end of the day, all we have is our relationships with God, Family, and Friends…..the money, houses, cars, etc….will all be gone.

    Hang in there bro and thanks again for a great heartfelt post…..HOOAH !!!!!

    Regards,

    Tom (Mad Dog)

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Tom

      yeah I’m with ya about the money thing. I ain’t against money. But the constant focus on it and seeking fulfillment in it is an empty way to live

      At least in my experience

      And yeah Tom, I pray constantly _ I’m no good without it

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