About ChrisMcCombs.Net

0FE68661-DBC0-4E32-9F8F-D80C4DB885D0How to live one helluva damn fulfilling life while kicking a ton of ass and doing some super cool shit along the way

I was in the market one day and was wearing a shirt from my favorite band Stone Sour, led by the great rock front man Corey Taylor…

It’s one of the shirts I like to lift weights in…in fact, I like it so much I have two of the exact same shirt.

I rarely wear it other than to work out in because it’s a black shirt and on the front of it in big ol’ white letters it says “Stone Fucking Sour”…and little kids don’t need to be seeing that stuff, so I save it for the gym.

Usually when I’m done lifting, I change into one of my other t-shirts.

However, on this day, I forgot to bring along another shirt, so I wore the sweaty and offensive Stone Sour shirt when I left the gym for the ride home, and along the way I stopped by the grocery store to pick up a few things

…I think I was getting some flowers for my girl, but I can’t exactly remember…let’s just say it was flowers; that way I come across  like a nice guy here (=

Anyhow, as I’m in line, there’s this little old lady in front of me checking me out…she must’ve been up in her high seventies or eighties…and I see her reading my shirt…

….DOH!!!! 0=

I immediately try to cover up the F word with my hand and say “Oh ma’am, please don’t read that, it has a curse word on it.”

I was pretty sure I’d blocked it in time and averted the sweet little old lady from seeing something she didn’t need to see (as well as any little kids who might have been lurking about in the area by the checkstands).

As we stood in line, we made polite conversation…she was sweet…like your grandma was when you were 5.

As we said goodbye, she leaned in with a big smile and said “Have a nice FUCKING day.”

I have no idea exactly who this blog will resonate with. I’ve had a popular fitness marketing blogKickBackLife.com… for years, but I’ve always wanted to have a spiritual slash personal development blog for people who don’t DO personal development, at least not in the traditional sense.

I always figured it would be for guys who aren’t “Dialed In” as they jump out of bed at 4:30am excited to make their green drink, do some affirmations, go for a run, and get crankin’ on some Tony Robbins audios all before 6:30 …so they can be closing deals by 8am sharp. (Nothing against Tony.)

I envisioned an audience full of dudes and dudettes who aren’t woo-woo off in the airy-fairy new age spiritual world…and aren’t super goody-goody uptight hardcore religious types either. (And nothing against any of that stuff, it’s just not who I pictured myself writing to.)

Maybe they’ve read a self-help book, saw that movie The Secret when it was making its rounds…or maybe they hit church every Sunday but are more likely to crank jammin’ tunes in their headphones than Eckhart Tolle or Brian Tracy.

I pictured dudes who drive pick-up trucks (with maybe a Harley or crotch rocket to boot)…crank hard rock, metal… punk… hip-hop…or some form of agro music…they like chill stuff too, but there’s some agro stuff in there somewhere.Banksy Flowers

I pictured them having tattoos, dropping F bombs, and saying “dude” and “bro” a lot…

They’ve seen Goodfellas, The Departed, Heat, Fight Club, Shawshank, Office Space, SuperBad, The Big Lebowski, The Hangover, and Pulp Fiction somewhere between 3 to 10 times each…maybe more for Pulp Fiction… (And hopefully they like “Good Will Hunting” as well, my all-time 2nd favorite flick behind Shawshank.)

I pictured…well…people kind of…a little…like me.

However, lately I’ve been learning that ALL KINDS of people seem to resonate with my writing…and fortunately for me it doesn’t matter that I pretty much failed English and don’t know how to type (I peck).

When I peck, people seem to listen, and they tell me the stuff I write helps them (=

And guess what? They don’t all have tattoos, shaved heads, long hair, or mohawks.

In fact, most of ‘em don’t.

Some are even regular good ol’ down home country folk.

I created this new blog, ChrisMcCombs.net, because there’s stuff in my soul I need to spit out sometimes…and when I do, it seems to help all kinds of different people, some who I’d NEVER expect, to live happier, more meaningful, and fulfilled lives.

I’ve been bleeding out onto my keyboard for a few years on my other blog KickBackLife.com, my business and marketing blog for fitness professionals, in posts like my one about Ass Kickings and Lessons Learned …about some of what I’ve learned (and am learning as I go) in this crazy little thing we call “Life.”

For YEARS I’ve wanted a platform with a focus on the more spiritual posts, and “Kick Back Life” just isn’t that platform.

That blog pays my bills, from the info-products and affiliate products and programs I promote.

THIS blog… ChrisMcCombs.net… is where I can open a few veins and just let it all spill out…

…without having to be a good little quote un-quote “Marketing Guru” …and all of the trappings that come with it.

“One night I was layin’ down.
I heard my Mama and Papa talkin’.
I heard Papa tell Mama,
Let that boy boogie-woogie.
Cause it’s in him, and it’s got to come out.”

John Lee Hooker – Boogie Chillen

I love being a marketing guy…but there’s only so far you can push the envelope on a business blog.

THIS blog is for the posts that I LOVE to write, posts that don’t always have an end goal in mind…posts that come from the darkest rivers of my heart and the back alleys of my soul.

…Posts that I write when I’m “off the clock” and just having fun for the sake of writing, the posts that I’d write even if I wasn’t a professional blogger and didn’t make one slim dime from blogging…the posts that no business and marketing coach in his right mind would put on his blog.

Ever since I was a child I’ve always wanted to be a writer…even though I hated English Class…with the exception of Creative Writing.

In fact I hated most everything about school…except Art, Recess, P.E….and Creative Writing.

I just couldn’t pay attention to what the teachers were talking about…and I spent A LOT of time in the principal’s office and in detention.

When I was about 9 or 10, I was writing a book…well, my mom found it, and let’s just say due to the subject matter I was banned from R movies for a year and I had to go to a shrink every Thursday after school.

So, I’ve always loved to write.
Kick Back Life Website

Now, one of my goals in life is to Directly and/or Indirectly help over 1,000,000 people to live happier and more fulfilling lives.

An example of what I mean by indirectly is…on my other blog KickBackLife.com,  I’m able to help fitness trainers get more clients, help more people, and help them in a more profound way

There’s often a ripple effect that positively touches the trainers, the clients, and the people in the clients’ lives…people ALL OVER THE WORLD…the United States, Australia, Canada, the U.K, Spain, Africa….you name it… (gotta love the internet).

Most of them are people who I will never meet and many of them don’t even know I exist.

But now they’re training with some trainer whose business I helped build because of my blog posts…and maybe he got the clients from one of the strategies I taught…and now these clients I don’t know are living happier and healthier lives, and hopefully they’ll be around longer on this earth for their families, and maybe even motivate some of their family and friends to lead healthier lives, in turn impacting even MORE people.

Well, this blog is where I can help even more people than that.

…a butterfly farts and there’s a Tsunami thousands of miles away…well something like that…

My blogs allow me to be a farting butterfly and rip a few good ones every now and then.

It’s my funky little contribution to the world…it’s about some of the mistakes I’ve made (and the new ones I’m making all the time).

It’s about the lessons I’m learning as I go…lessons that hopefully can help YOU to lead a happier, more fulfilling, and awesome life.

A life in the gap between right and wrong… good and bad…black and white…

…Between judgments of how others should act…and how we should be better or different or more “fill in the blank” than we are…

… A life lived in the gap between the thoughts about what we want OTHERS to think about us…

… About how life shouldn’t have dealt us such a shitty hand…

It’s about not giving a shit about the small things so you CAN give a shit about the things that TRULY matter.

Things like friends, family, making a difference, creating cool things, and just plain old Being.

The ride of life can pull us in and trick our minds into thinking that SO MANY of the lies in our heads are true…

… So many of the illusions are real…and so many things matter that don’t matter one fucking bit.

A life where you Rise Above the things that are holding you down from whatever it is that you want deep down in the pit of your soul.

 A fulfilling life where you get to kick a ton of ass and do some super cool shit along the way.

Personally, I’ve had to rise above negative thinking, poor self-image, low self-esteem, social awkwardness, shame, and periods of self-hatred, lack of money, attachment to money, greed, drug addictions, extreme OCD, resentments, innumerable fears, and the ego-based selfish mindset of only being concerned about what’s in it for ME…which has proven to be a losing battle time and again.

Just to name a few.

Now, sometimes it’s a daily thing…life is lived at ground zero...some stuff goes away forever, some stuff goes away and returns, and some stuff pops up on a daily basis, but hopefully today less than yesterday.

Take, for example, resentments: even though I’ve let resentments almost kill me, and I do my best to stay in a place of love and forgiveness, they can come back to bite me at any moment.

The saying “When you have a resentment it’s like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die” is TRUE, at least in my experience…but ONLY 100% of the time.

I don’t claim to have it all figured out; in fact, I realize I know only a little…

…But somehow life’s been dealing me some interesting lessons for the last decade or so, and one of the biggest gifts of these lessons are that a lot of other people seem to get something from them…and my favorite way to pass them along is in the written word…ESPECIALLY in blog posts.

“Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?”

Bob Marley

To make a long story short…

From age 14 or 15 until age 30 I was a hopeless drug addict…I entered my first rehab at age 16.

I started selling weed when I was 17 and by my early 20s I was an interstate and international narcotics trafficker.

During this period one of my closest friends in the whole world was murdered right across the street from me in a home invasion revenge killing and rip-off. RIP Shannon.

At age 24 I was busted by the Orange County Narcotics Task Force and did a little bit of time.

This was followed by periods of homelessness and stays in jail and the county psych ward.

After 15 years of craziness I got sober and became a dramatic “night and day” success story.…things just flowed.

Serendipitous experiences became the norm.

I was able to create an “awesome” life for myself…two successful businesses, making almost 7-Figures a year, a large online following, ripped and muscular body, huge house, sports car, toys, and a picture-perfect family.

But here’s the bitch of the bunch…I ended up more miserable than I’ve ever been…

…Miserable because I started to thinChris McCombs lifting weightsk I was cool and wanted to take the credit for all this amazing stuff in my life…

You see, after about 5 years of sobriety, I stopped doing some of the things that had helped me get sober in the first place…

..Meditation, helping other people with no expectation of anything in return, living in the now while striving towards a better future. That kind of stuff.

AND…

I made money my god, become an insane workaholic, and put business before family…missing out on so much time I should have spent with my wife and young children…all so I could reach my financial goals.

I was driven by fear.

I had no spiritual connection, no focus on helping others unless it involved them giving me money…and I became a big ol’ egomaniac who felt I was entitled to all the great things in my life.

I had lost my desire to help others and make a contribution to the world.

I just wanted to make money and be admired by others…I had let a giant hole well up deep inside me.

A hole that can’t be filled by anything of this world.

I TRIED…big emphasis on “tried”…to fill the hole inside with things outside of myself…

…Money, Possessions, Sex, Popularity.

They actually SEEMED to work for a little while, but in the end it all came crashing down.

…In essence, I had traded my soul for the world…

“The things you own end up owning you.”

Tyler Durden

After the better part of 10 years clean and sober, I relapsed into the worst drug addictions of my life and had an INSANE mid-life crisis…I’m not talking about just any mid-life crisis—this one was fueled by massive amounts of steroids and bodybuilding drugs, street and prescription drugs, extreme levels of OCD, and a beast inside that needed to destroy everything I had created in the last 10 years.

And I did a fairly good job of it in a reasonably short amount of time.

In a 12-year period I went from a hopeless opiate addict…so miserable I didn’t see how I could live another day (there were days I’d consume over 120 Vicodin…along with a cocktail of other goodies like xanax, weed, and alcohol)…

…To clean and sober…having an extremely reasonably happy life filled with periods of massive personal growth and spiritual development…

…To forgetting what’s important and throwing it all away…losing just about everything…with the exception of my online business…(however, it DID take a substantial hit from this period)…

…To total surrender, checking myself into a detox, and starting over.

There was a lot of loss.

…But what’s weird is, in the losing, I actually found a freedom I never knew was possible…

Like Andy Dufresne in The Shawshank Redemption, I crawled through a river of shit and came out clean on the other side…well at least on the inside.

Life is still full of all kinds of problems, but that’s part of this game of life…it’s what we DO with the problems that matters.

Do they make us weak? Bitter of hateful? Full of fear?

Do they kill us?

Or do they make us stronger, better, more loving and accepting?

“Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the strength, move on.”

Henry Rollins

This blog is my platform to express things I can’t properly express on my marketing blog…well I CAN, but this blog is a MUCH better fit for it.

It’s where I can carry my message and share some of the wild lessons I’m learning along the way in this crazy and AMAZING ride we calB5CB12E8-1F44-4806-B052-CB03C8B9F80El life…

…Living in the present while passionately creating an incredible future and life for yourself and those around you.

It’s about giving it your fucking all, accepting your flaws and the flaws of those around you, and just being YOU…and hey, there’s no one else better to play the part anyway…right?

It’s about being 100% true to yourself and doing the things you enjoy…those things that get you into the Gap between the never-ending chatter, fears, and judgments of the mind

It’s about Being more than Doing

It’s about being the most reasonably happy person you can be.

It’s about taking the hits and getting right back up.

And since we’re human we can’t ALWAYS feel happy…so WHATEVER it is you are in any moment….be that fully.

There’s no way around, only through.

“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”

Bruce Lee

Embrace everything, even your greatest fears, as they’re the passageway to your deepest desires.

This blog is a signpost to the Gap.

When I was a kid I used to race BMX and take my bike off jumps to get into the Gap…literally hundreds of times a day…I have the scars to prove it.

D90A1F39-E210-4C3B-9C23-88CF53A13C37…Years later it was dirt bikes and then street bikes…

Even drugs, sex, and music have gotten me into the gap.

However, not always with the best outcomes.

The Gap is available to us at any given moment, it’s that place of no-thought between the thoughts.

Some call it the flow, some call it present moment awareness, others say “being in the now.”

Today I find it in blogging, meditation, looking into my newborn’s eyes, training, or just taking a breath and being still.

It’s about choosing love over hate, forgiveness over resentments, acceptance over resistance, truth over lies… and the moment over the past or future…which aren’t real anyway and only exist in the mind…

…At least that’s been my experience.

It’s about rising above mediocrity, racism, judgement, negative thinking, and ANYTHING that doesn’t allow you to have the most kick-ass life possible…

…a life of happiness, fulfillment, and contribution.

I think the late great comedian Bill Hicks said it best… (RIP Bill)

Oh, and I guess I’ll do a few lines of the official “About Page” stuff…

- Outgoing Introvert (it’s a weird mix)
– Master Mistake Maker
– Smart Ass
– Official Member of The Clean Plate Club (I even finish all my veggies)
– Obsessive Compulsive
– Professional Blogger
– Information Marketer
– Internet Marketer
– Affiliate Marketer
– Semi-Minimalist
– Weight Lifter
– Copywriter
– Part Wayne Dyer
– Part Henry Rollins
– Part Teddy Bear
Laptoponfiregrayscale-w800-h600- Father of four…had none until I was 35, now I’m 42 and have 4 (=
– Sober Alcoholic and Drug Addict
– My first product launch of an information product, Market Annihilator, did just under $304,000.00 in billable sales in about 1 week’s time…since then I have launched close to 20 information products
– Have had multiple massive business failures
– Made a complete documentary about the Internet Marketing Guru world that was never released due mostly to personal problems between me and my partner on the project
– Self-absorbed…but doing my best not to be
– A Human Being Being Human and Doing My Best To Enjoy The Journey and Help a Few Others Along The Way

Make sure to subscribe to this blog so I can send you all kinds of great blog posts…

Alright, I’m out…. talk soon (=

Big Chris

P.S. To learn more, here’s a post that sums up many of the principles this blog is all about, check it out: 37 Ways To Be a Total Bad Ass

AKA Chris McCombs

“I’ll ride the wave, where it takes me!”

Eddie Vedder

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Comments

  1. My God Chris,

    I just read this post and it literally gave me the chills. I don’t know of anyone ANYWHERE that is as transparent and as real as you. In this day and age where most people wants to “portray” and “front” about who they are, it’s very refreshing to see someone who is not afraid to talk about their “failures” in a real way. In the last 5 years I have witnessed you go through hell and back and as a result you’re the best Chris McCombs EVER. I thank you for everything you taught me throughout the years including the best lesson of all, transparency. You my friend are a true definition of someone who is “Go Giver” and someone who has an “abundant mindset”. I have made literally made millions from what you have taught me over the years and more importantly I have made a true friend. Congratulations on your new bundle of joy, Zoe Taylor McCombs.

  2. Chris I am stoked that you started this blog. When I joined your mentoring program to help maximize my training business I thought I was gonna learn all these neat little tricks that would help me get more clients. What I got instead was a mentor that shared knowledge and experiences not only in marketing and how to build a base of clients that love you, but in life and how to realize what is truly important. While my business is rocking and generating more money than ever and that’s great (I do love making great dough doing what I love) I have a new appreciation for the privilege I have to enjoy life and just be fucking happy with it. I look forward to seeing some great content come out of this new site. Thanks for everything bro.

  3. Sometimes it takes losing it all to be able to become the person we are meant to be.

    Having known you along this journey, both through the good and bad I’m glad to see you back and better than ever.

    There seems to be something inherently normal about self-destructing once you reach the top (I followed a similar path after setting the World Record), but with that comes self-reflection and from that we grow and plow forward with more passion and more purpose than ever before.

    I look forward to what random ramblings are to come.

  4. This is going to be a great blog. I’m looking forward to your posts.

  5. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Thanks JSE, I remember following your stuff when I was just getting started as a trainer years and years ago… I was like, damn… that dude has his stuff TOGETHER

  6. Nice Stuff Chris! I followed you over from the training world but really love the path you’re on. Its cool to see someone else looking inward but not getting all “airy fairy” as you said. Its funny a friend of mine just said that phrase and I totally love it! LOL Keep doing what you’re doing. I’ll keep reading. Its all about the journey.

  7. Your latest blogs have really been spot on with me Chris, there’s a lot of parallels I find in my current struggles & obstacles that you’ve talked about, especially your “Ass Kicking” post!

    Anyways, thank you for what you do as it truly inspires me to continue to push on two of my blogs that I had given up on because I was supposedly “too busy”.

    But that was just a BS excuse, I just got lazy from blaming stress & not handling it appropriately at the time, but I’ve turned the corner and kick ass blogs like yours, Sam’s, Luka’s & Zach E has definitely helped!

  8. Wow, this is just pure Big Chris, another home run. Good to see you bringin’ it full steam. You know, me and you are REALLY different in a lot of ways ….. but I resonate with your posts nonetheless on a true, gut level. That says a lot about your writing. And as a fitness junkie, I have learned a LOT — not only from your expertise but from your QUESTIONS. I salute your journey and the courage you have in sharing it. It’s inspiring.

    Bowing namaste-like in your general direction in the same spirit as that classic grandma from the grocery store…..

  9. It’s pretty cool for big tatted up dudes open up and keep it real the way you are here. Not to many people are that brave.

    Must be very empowering to be there. Keep up the good work, I perceive you differently (in good way) after reading this.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Matt, funny, even though I’m all Big with shaved head, goatee and tats, I’m the worlds biggest Teddy Bear (=

  10. Awesome blog, I’ve been following you for more than 2 years now when i first launched Action Boot Camp and you have helped me create both my businesses. I look forward to reading more. You are like a fine wine Chris, you get better with age :)

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Why thank you Yvonne, I think I owe you something for your new site you’re launching, please hit me back after the second week of Jan ok? I’m on vacation ( mostly ) til then from the fitness business stuff (=

  11. Chris: I’m a long time follower of yours and user of some of your products. I always read whatever you send out – even the product promo ones with their follow ups. Love your ‘tude, love your honesty and I think I’m gonna love this site as well.
    Be well – speak true, live truer.
    Have a safe & happy festive season!!
    I’ll be reading.

  12. Great stuff Chris, and people from all walks of life definitely could learn a thing or two from your journey. Thanks for opening up and sharing, looking forward to future posts.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey Ryan, we can all learn from each others journey, what a great time we live in to have things like blogs, YouTube, Facebook and Twitter to share this great stuff with eachother

  13. One word..AWESOME..no just kidding two words …INSPIRATIONALLY AWESOME. Not only have your products help reinvigorate my passion for not only fitness but for helping people. At some point along my journey, I was slowly losing faith in people. Just came to the conclusion that we were all going to self destruct at some point. But after reading your blog sometimes have you have to complete break whats broken to rebuild it for the better. Continue to be Awesome…I’ll be back for more.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Wow, glad I can give you a little faith back in people, or remind you of it

      Maybe 1% of people are almost all good, 1% almost all bad

      The other 98% of us our in the middle

      I think we just need to do the best we can to strive to be in the top 1% instead of the bottom 1%

  14. Fucking Brilliant!! Thanks for your raw heart felt words, great way to kick start the new year. I am inspired to to conquer my own demons.
    Thanks again…. Love your new precious one!!!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Lani, thank you so much, it’s comments like yours that made me wanna do this blog, this is what it’s all about

  15. HELL YES!! Chris, I have been following you for years and I own a few of your products (AWESOME by the way) but I have never felt as connected as I do now. Speaking my language brother! Keep these post coming man. Thanks again for everything you do for the fitness and for me (Reality Based Street Fighting) industry.

  16. Chris McCombs Unleashed!

    Way to go in setting this up Chris. The world needs a voice like yours tearing through the BS and saying it as it is.

    I remember KBL was one of the first things I ever read on fitness marketing and it just opened my eyes to a whole new world that no ‘professor’ had ever told me about.

    I used your free products to make some money. Used that bit of money to buy some of your low-end products, and eventually I was able to work my way up to meet you in person at the mastermind.

    Thanks to you Chris my business is totally different, my lifestyle is better, but MOST of all my MINDSET is on a whole new level and Im working towards goal that 1 year ago I’d never have thought were even possible for me.

    And what you talk about in this blog – the transparency, honesty and just being comfortable in yourself – who ever you are – is what will take you to that higher level (or Rise Above).

    Thanks for the information, inspiration and the coaching this far Chris – looking forward to reading this blog!

    Justin Devonshire , Cyprus

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Justin from Egypt ( well ALMOST Egypt )

      What’s up brother?

      Looking forward to seeing you in January my man

  17. Life comes full circle always. It takes big balls to let your heart and mind drain… balls that most people don’t have or want to show they have because their afraid people might not like them. When you stare down your fears, beat them to the ground and leave a bloody spot where they stood… you have created the small victories that build the foundations for a most fulfilling life. I had to go through something a little similar, except for the drugs… but definitely a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol and destroying everything in my path. I’ve always known that you were a warrior. Warriors bleed, heal… and get back out there and fight their fight “their” way. I’m a better person just knowing you. Thank you for the opportunity to read your new blog.

  18. Absolutely awesome! Got to be the most honest and transparent “top dude/guru” out there and im sure this is going to get an even bigger following than kickbacklife which is totally amazing!
    Often even the most sought after and recognized self help experts out there are not willing to be 100% transparent and tell their tale warts and all yet you have bared your warts and all (metaphorically speaking im not saying you are full of warts dude!) to the world. Im very inspired by your stuff and will forward it to all my clients, friends and family and ask them to do the same if they like it, which they will!!!!!
    keep up the great work Rick Gannon UK

  19. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Hey thanks man, stoked you’re forwarding it to your clients too man, that’s SUPER awesome of you

  20. Hey Chris great post and i think i will be checking in here a lot. As always mate you deliver. I kind of understand why you did this, about 2 years ago now life for me changed what i thought was important no longer seemed so. I wrote a short blog for myself that i often refer back to just to keep me grounded and to keep me focused on the real path of life. If you have 5 mins i know your a busy man please take time to read it and let me know your thoughts.
    http://ilearntthistoday.wordpress.com

    Thanks as always

    Wayne

  21. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    hey wayne, thanks for the kind words, ya know for some reason I can only see a snipit of your post on your blog

  22. Beautiful stuff Chris, keep it coming!!

  23. Andrew Rouse says:

    Hi Chris, Ive followed kick back life for a while now and its having a massive impact on my empire. especially since i have adopted the semi private group training model. My income is climbing and my influence is growing. i still have a few questions and would love a chance to chat, but i want to thank ou for being such an inspiration.

    Andy

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey Andrew, do me a favor, send those questions through to http://www.kickbacklife.com/contact/ and I’ll see if I can get you some answers – tell my support I said to have them forwarded to me… but do me a favor, wait til after Jan 9th, right now I’m kinda on vacation and spending some time with my newborn daughter Zoe ( this crazy blog is the kind of thing I like to do in my free time )

      • Thanks Chris hope your vacation was good and time off well deserved. Ive seen the questions over today so you should get them soon. Thanks for the help so far and i look forward to hearing from you

        Andrew

  24. You give me hope mate. I wish you every success.

  25. Wow man, you really opened up on this one. I wish you the best to keep striving forward, my man.

    Jedd

  26. WOW my brother. this is 100% awesome sauce!! I TOTALLY love it when you write this deep shit as i REALLY resonate with it. Keep doing your thing my brother!

    See ya in february1

  27. Great blog Chris! I look forward to the future posts as I know you have a lot of value to share. Congratulations on the birth of Zoe as well! Big thing happening in the McCombs World!

  28. hey Chris! Hope your well, this is awesome! keep up the amazing work! Love it! Rock on! Have a great Christmas :)

  29. Matt "Wiggy" Wiggins says:

    Dude…fucking wow.

    Cliche as it sounds, I mean it when I say I feel like you’re writing about me in so many ways with this post. Be it your description of who you want to reach, or simply just focusing on what’s important in life. I’m in the middle of my own spiritual journey, very similar to that which you described – studying everything from LOA, quantum physics, meditation, subliminal self-hypnosis, and more…all while trying to figure out how it ties in with God.

    At the same time, I’ll never be the guy skipping through the flowers of the field barefoot singing “Kum Ba Yah”…though I might whistle some Hank, have Kid Rock running through my head, or try to pick some Zepplin on the guitar. If “woo-woo” could meet “badass” – that’s where I see myself.

    (And while I don’t have a pickup or a Harley…but I *do* drive a ’66 Mustang everyday.)

    Once I had a life I considered perfect…until it came crashing down from events I didn’t perpetrate, but have been man enough to have 20/20 hindsight and admit I more than contributed to. Now, the aim is to be the best me I can be…all whilst doing my own thing, doing what’s right, and not giving a damn what the rest of the world thinks. As I say about myself (and have tattooed on my forearm): WYSIWYG – What You See Is What You Get.

    Your post comes at a perfect time, as I’ve been going through more struggles that have seemed to popup out of nowhere, but as I literally posted on Facebook just a few minutes ago – The last few days have seriously kicked my ass – to a level it’s not been kicked in a long time. But to use a Jim Wendler tweak on a famous quote – “You know the saying, ‘Get knocked down seven times, but get up eight’? I prefer to get up eight times and knock the fuck out of whoever knocked me down the first seven times.”

    This looks to be a badass blog, man – the kinda stuff I know I’ll resonate with to the fullest. Thanks for putting it out there and keep up the good work.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      THIS: ‘Get knocked down seven times, but get up eight’? I prefer to get up eight times and knock the fuck out of whoever knocked me down the first seven times.” – is awesome

      Thx for the awesome comment Matt… Wendler, Kid Rock ( LOVE the “Cocky” album, especially the second half)… and love Hank too ( Country Boy Can Survive … was jammin that tune just the other day )

      WYSIWYG

      keep it up my man

  30. Thanks Chris, great read to start my day!

  31. It’s 4:41 am and I just got some self help from Chris McCombs. I am ready to close the fu*k out of people by 8am. Good sh*t man. I get tired of all the PT hype sometimes so this is a breath of fresh air!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      JAIYA… we gotta hang out soon brother – I’m down in Dana Point these days, maybe I’ll have to head up to Long Beach

      thx for the comment bro

  32. My MAN!!!

    Big Chris, or as I like to call him “Babycakes”…

    Dude, can not say enough good things about you as a person, your consistent and untouchable information that you constantly release free of charge, and your general presence and attitude!! I feel like I’ve known you my whole life, and we haven’t even had the pleasure to meet yet. I’ve called upon you in times of need, and asking for guidance and help making decisions and your a text away. Through you I’ve met a lot of other trainers, and coaches that I respect and admire and have found out SO much about what it takes to run a business, and not just run a business, but run a SUCCESSFUL business without all of the time wasting, energy sucking BULLSHIT!! I still feel like I’m constantly overwhelmed with the amount of information out there, but when I cut down to my top 5 guys I follow daily, you’re by far my number one stud haha. Seriously man, congrats on the new site, it’s fucking incredible as always and I thank you again for your friendship, guidance, and LOVE for music that we always start our coaching calls with. “Yo dude, did you hear that” “Hey man I got this new band I found” or my favorite “I don’t care what you say Golden Girls is a damn quality show” bahahahha. Love you buddy!!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      THE GOLDEN GIRLS … ha ha ha

      thx Mike, keep hitting them deadlift bro and cranking the Beiber

      my fellow heavy metal maniac

  33. Big Chris,

    “REAL” life can beat you down!

    There is a LOT of take-a-ways from movies like The Godfather, A Bronx Tale, Casino, weekly shows like The Walking Dead, The Sopranos, and even American Chopper and Sons of Anarchy.

    Real Life is about interactions of people with other people.

    Real Life #1 – If you say the “wrong” thing to somebody or disrespect them you could get your ass kicked!

    Real Life #2 – People don’t deal with people they don’t like or respect!

    There are times you need to keep your mouth shut and times you have to stick up for yourself and the knowledge to know the difference.

    LIFE does not operate like a Harvard Business Book and if you don’t learn “street knowledge” and have some real life skills you get run over… and run down.

    Unless you live in a flower garden (which I don’t know who does) life is more of a football game with blocking and tackling. It doesn’t really get easier – it gets better but you will have ups and downs.

    I’ll be checking back aften and reading your posts, life stories and motivation!

    I always read the other blog – I look more forward to this one!

    Brian

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Appreciate it Brian

      “Unless you live in a flower garden (which I don’t know who does) life is more of a football game with blocking and tackling.” … LOVE IT… so true

  34. Chris,
    mannnnn, it’s been a crazy ride!

    I can honestly say that you have been a huge influence in my career, from first reading your blogs and honestly learning how to blog from you, to having you coach me and take my business to the next level.

    We’ve also been through a lot of crazy things so I relate to you on many levels and it has been a crazy journey seeing you become a better you and providing some much great info and life insight through your blogs.

    I’m proud to call you a friend and I’m looking forward to all the great things still to come.

    Thanks for everything!

    Luka

  35. Hey Chris try this http://ilearntthistoday.wordpress.com/2011/ you may have to navigate about a bit.

  36. If that does not work try this. Its the first post would really respect and appreciate your feed back
    http://ilearntthistoday.wordpress.com/2011/01/26/november-4th-2010/

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey Wayne, what’s the name of the exact post?

      • hey chris its more of a journal within a blog its written over a few days just short posts the first one being here
        http://ilearntthistoday.wordpress.com/2011/01/26/november-4th-2010/

        • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

          Got it

          Cool journal / blog

          Great platform to open up the wounds and let the poison out

          I really like:

          “What I learnt, even during times when you think life has turned shit, and you’re not sure of the future, but you know times ahead are going to get hard, you can still find that sense of happiness, that feeling that no matter what happens, there are always people who love you. Who know just what is needed to help you through. There is no shame in feeling vulnerable, scared, lost, just be sure to take peoples love and use it to find a way forward.”

          Thanls for sharing Wayne

  37. WOW ! What a great timing… just back from a cancelled meeting with the decision to take a day for myself, look back and think about the change I am making in my business life. I saw a post about your bog from my friend Marc on his Facebook. Your blog today is a real good kick in the ass to move ahead towards a life of helping others. Thanks for the inspiration. I look forward to more… By the way, I have no tattoo, no real muscle (I run but no gym training), I don’t own a bike but I share all these great movies that I have seen so many times and a true love of life. Cheers from Canada !

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks a ton Stephen… these: “take a day for myself, look back and think about the change I am making in my business life”

      are some of my fave days, taking a bunch of them this month (=

  38. Billy Carney says:

    I learned a lot about you, (*some I didn’t need to know, some that was very interesting and sort of inspiring.) You’ve lead a very diverse life and yet you still survive and thrive. You’re something of an inspiration on how to keep going even when you get knocked down (whether by it being your fault or society’s fault.) I’ll be reading your new blog and your other blog because it’s interesting reading and sometimes you throw out some pretty good nuggets of information too.

  39. Chris.
    You are a true inspiration. I have been reading your blogs for just under a year and its made me realize that no matter how low you might feel at one point and time.No matter how shitty you might think your current situation is. Theres always a way to light the fire under our own asses and fight for the things we truly want to achieve…I feel this inspiration through your kickbacklife blog..I can only imagine the great things to come through your new site here.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      “Theres always a way to light the fire under our own asses and fight for the things we truly want to achieve” –

      Tru dat

      thx Zac

  40. Very inspiring when you bare your soul like this. i learnt a few things from it. cannot wait to read more. when i grow up i want to be able to write like you

  41. Chris, aka “Babycakes”

    Man what can I say about you bro? You’re absolutely one of my favorite people on the planet. When I stumbled upon your kickbacklife site months ago, I had mixed thoughts at first because I figured you were JUST like all the OTHER “fitness guru’s” out there. But when I started to dive into your articles and really absorb all of your FREE information, I knew that you were a bread all of your own. You’ve become a great friend, a constant mentor, and a person that I highly respect. I honestly can’t say enough good things about you my man. Whenever we have our coaching calls, the first 5 mintues are “yo bro, hey dude, totalllly, did you hear this new band, hey I got this new track I’m jamming. Did you see my new blog post? Do you really like The Golden Girls>?” haha. I feel like I’ve known you for my whole life and we still have not had the privelage of meeting one another. Let’s make 2013 our bitch and get a serious bromance hangout session in. COME AT ME BRO!!

  42. This is it man! Chris has a voice! A voice that helps people. Yes, this is the next, much awaited, heavily needed and greatly appreciated step of his. As my coach and mentor, Chris has helped me realize my worth as a human being that is of value to people. He has helped me find what I want and need to become to be successful and do good along the way. People like Chris move the world forward and help it evolve. This is deep brother, thank you so much for everything! Paris – Athens, Greece

  43. Great stuff Chris! I’m really looking forward to reading more on this new blog. Sharing your hard times and difficulties is a hard thing for people to do, let alone face it themselves. I find it very motivational hearing about stories of getting knocked down, but having enough warrior spirit to get back up and keep fighting. I think people need to hear more stories like this, so they realize that it is possible, as long as you keep on pushing. Thank you Chris for starting this new blog.

  44. Is it just me or does this site look awesome? Oh yea, you have a pretty cool story too Chris ;)

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Thanks for making this awesome blog for me brother

      Anyone reading, Scott is the dude who built this new site

  45. Mark Domme says:

    In this day and age the phrase “keeping it real” really means “filter your words so as not to offend”. I am so looking forward to this blog because I know you will keep us on our toes mentally, spiritually, and at times maybe even physically. Just from this first post, I know you still know what “keeping it real” means….sometimes we all need a big dose of TRUTH!!!!

  46. 100% Raw.
    100% Real.
    100% McCombs.

    Just continue to work hard truly trying to help others – and you will leave a massive impact.

    Well done, my friend.

    Ryan

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Thx Ryan, I appreciate it my friend

      YOU were probably my biggest influence for getting into Info-marketing

      I would listen to your stuff and think, DAMN, this dude has one cool gig, I gotta do what he’s doing

      And thanks again for promoting my first product, that meant a lot

  47. Good work Man!

  48. Wow. Amazing transparency and thoughtfulness. I’ve simply loved the time we’ve spent together finding out how fucked up we all are.

    You rock dude! Keep it coming.

    Matt

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      yeah that was a good time huh?

      thanks for a being a friend Matt, and thanks for sending all those people to my post
      ( http://www.kickbacklife.com/2012/11/26/wish-i-did-know-then/ ) about getting my ass kicked and the lessons i learned.. I didn’t ask you too, you got no money or anything, just did it to be cool and hook people up with something you thought would add value to their lives, your tribe left me a ton of comments, thanks again brother

  49. Hey Chris,

    I met you at the 2009 Fitness Info Summit and have been following you ever since. I also got your Fitness Blogging Profits and have been a student of that as well. I intend to put it to great use as I keep building my new blog, which also explores some similar spiritual concepts. It’s funny cause I grew up listening to metal too, played in a few bands and got into drinking and drugs. After partying my life away and dwelling in some dark places, literally almost dying like Jimmy Hendrix… I started to get serous about health and fitness and I began reading hundreds of books from personal growth, to science, spirituality, and everything in between. It really helped to change my direction in life, but I still have a ways to go. These days I consider you a mentor and role model of what can be achieved if you keep it real and are not afraid to be yourself… and go after your dreams. Thanks for all you do!

  50. This is awesome Chris,

    I just want to say thank you for all the help you have provided me for the last 3 years with your blog and info products. I started training people out of my garage and because I grew so much I was forced to either work more hours or get a bigger place and train more people at once.

    I went with the second option and moved into a big ass factory.

    It’s great to personally now have you as a coach to run things by with both my on and offline businesses. I look forward to the relationship that we will develop in the future.

    Thanks again,

    Grant

  51. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    GRANT… Cardio Hater… thanks for the heartfelt comment (=

  52. Bro, to make it in life being yourself is 100 times harder than just making it. You made it, being 100% yourself. Respect

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Mik… hope all’s well in AU or Thailand or wherever you’re at right now, hit me up after 2nd week in Jan and lets connect

  53. Justin Yule says:

    Hey Chris,

    Awesome post! I’m excited about the new blog and excited to now be going from a reader to a partner with you in the affiliate world. :-)

    HAVE FAITH & TAKE ACTION!
    Justin Yule

  54. Jeff from central california says:

    hey Chris just wanted to say thanx (to you and some of the other cool people that read and commented on this post)…early in life i developed the obsessive habit of worrying about approval from others, pretending to have it together more than i really did and the resulting self-judgement that eventually turns into judgement of eveything and everyone to some degree, that wasnt “stacking up”. I guess thats why i can appreciate the sincerity and raw athenticity, particularly because its not for show or shock value or props for being “real”, but for the right reasons. I’m re-inspired to try to be a little more like that myself…keep holdin it down for those of fighting the good fight along side of you brutha, … your a good man Charlie Brown… :)

  55. Hey Chris, that’s the most awesome ‘about me’ page I’ve ever read. I remember reading your first blog kickbacklife.com about 4 years ago and and feeling inspired about the success you were achieving with your fitness business. At the time I was working 60 hours per week, burned out and stuck in a rut… I signed up for your first product marketanhilator then shortly after your private mentoring program… you showed me the light and gave me the motivation and knowledge I needed to make it to the next level – in just a few short years doing the stuff you taught me I achieved a level of success I didn’t think was possible for personal trainers… thanks mate – it’s truly appreciated!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Dan you are a legend out there … I get trainers in AU saying all the time ” I just wanna be like Dan Clay “

  56. Risa Cantu C'DeBaca says:

    Chris is and always will be my Stepdad. I’m 28 years old now, so in many ways we grew up together and I have seen him at some of the low points in his life. Times when I thought he was going to die before my eyes or when I resented him for his actions. Despite all of the drama when I was a kid and pre-teen (including heated arguments and interventions by the cops:), every day I am astonished to realize how much Chris influenced me. I mean…maybe not in some ways. I’m a Women and Gender Studies Teacher, a radical Socialist/Activist, a runner, and I don’t eat meat. LOL! But I do make fun of Namaste-types. Haha…

    When Chris and my mother separated, right before he got sober, I didn’t think I would ever see him again. We lived in Texas and he eventually went back to California. But I vowed to keep in touch with him and at first I was the only one that did. The two summers during high school I went back to Cali to visit I went to see Chris. During the 2000s we kept in touch online, on MySpace (back when that was popular), by phone/text, Facebook, and by visiting every time I was in SoCal. At first I was confused about why I wanted to stay in touch with Chris. But he was such a big part of my life and I just knew I had to. Looking back I realize why Chris and I used to clash a lot. We had A LOT in common! I am also an “outgoing introvert,” always had OCD-like tendencies, and even at 120 lbs…finish my whole damn plate! Part of that is because I didn’t have much growing up and I try not to be wasteful. I mean…Chris is the one who got me into Seinfeld (Best Sitcom and my my fave show of all time), Tarantino, Scorsese, P.T. Anderson, the Coen Brothers, and Metallica. Now my husband Adam and I visit Chris when we are in SoCal and I keep in touch with Chris often.

    I am happy to have been part of Chris’ life through the ups and downs.

    Chris: You are an all-around loving person. Money can’t buy that and people can’t take that away from you. I am proud of you as I hope you are of me.

    “The ends you serve that are selfish will take you no further than yourself but the ends you serve that are for all, in common, will take you into eternity.” —Marcus Garvey

    I didn’t intend on this being so long, but I think it’s important for people to hear how resilient Chris is, despite the setbacks he has endured. I also wanted to send a big virtual hug to Chris for allowing us to continue to keep a relationship and for teaching me it is okay to be yourself…even online:)

    ¡Felicidades! Congrats to you and your beautiful family!

    Love, Risa

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      WOW Risa, you about brought a tear to my eye, love you kid, and sending a big virtual hug right back at ya (=

      P.S. Sooooooo proud of you

  57. Chris, I REALLY needed to read that!! Thank you for opening up and sharing. This post has really inspired me and lifted me up.

    Wishing you and your family a very happy holiday and continued success and prosperity in the New Year.

    Best,
    Shari Fitness

  58. Kyle Tyrrell says:

    Awesome bro, it resonates big time

  59. Big Chris McCombs,

    One night about 7 months ago I fell asleep and woke up around 3AM to JSE as he interviewed you (I always listen to good material as I go to bed) .

    You REALLY connected with me that morning as I listened to you give advice.

    Ever since that day I have completely dialed into your products and your philosophies about life.

    I’ve learned SOOo much from you and have referred your products and blog to many of my peers.

    PEOPLE-NEED-TO-KNOW-WHAT-YOU’RE-ABOUT. And I make sure they do!

    Oddly enough one of my clients just so happens to know you. If I’m not mistaken you guys have worked together in a mastermind group (R. Scott). When he told me that you guys worked together I was stoked! I felt like it was a sign that I’m learning and listening to the right guy. I see you as the Jay-Z of all the fitness business entrepreneurs I study. Your stuff is just the best dude!

    Anyway, this blog post rocks, I’m gonna keep reading this and kickbacklife everyday and INVESTING in your products.

    Keep up the great work, and thank you for inspiring me to be the best fitness business entrepreneur I can be.

    -Josh

  60. I want to start off by saying thank you!!

    Thank you for being a person with the integrity to be who you are without ever worrying about what people will think and always standing up for what you believe in.

    Not only have you been a great mentor to me but you have become a great friend!!

    I connected with your story 3 years ago when it looked like i was about to go broke and lose everything!!

    I have been fortunate enough to spend time with you both in a business sense for my training facilities and also info marketing. Your passion to write and to help people has always come through in everything you have done and in the way you have helped me approach my own goals!!

    I have personally watched your transformations and you inspire me on a daily basis with the way you approach life and with you latest comeback!!

    I think this blog should be called the comeback!!:)

    I am not a patient person but I read all of your blog posts even the beast mode ones and I always feel like a piece of your heart goes out with your work and that creates so much passion for making sure that we all take on what you share with us and that also gives us the excitement to kick ass!!!

    I can’t wait to see how this blog grows and to follow you on the next part of your journey!!

    Thanks for being there for me and for sharing so much of your story with me when I was going through tough times!!

    can’t wait to catch up late Jan!!!:)

  61. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Adam , thank you so much brother, your words mean a lot

    You’re quite the inspiration yourself

    Looking forward to Jan (=

  62. Hey Big Chris,
    I can relate to lots of that. I could of killed myself a few times doing stupid shit in my twenties, hanging around with all the wrong people i now realise. Great post. You have been so through so much and kept getting back on track every time you fall off. That’s all you can do as a man and learn along the way.

    Stay in the gap!

    Peace x

  63. Chris,
    Good stuff brother! In a world where fluff and candy is all that people seem to want to consume, it’s refreshing to see another share his heart and not be afraid to show some real depth. I’m always preaching to my clients to be real and let it all out. Love or hate it…just be you. I always say… “Just like I wouldn’t think twice about kicking your ass, I also wouldn’t think twice about shedding some tears in front of you if that’s what the Lord leads me to do.” Your vulnerability and your words will help others. Thanks for sharing Bro. All the best with the blog. Stay strong.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Tony –

      “Just like I wouldn’t think twice about kicking your ass, I also wouldn’t think twice about shedding some tears in front of you if that’s what the Lord leads me to do.”

      AWESOME

  64. Just came across this – really loved reading it, it is REAL. Love your honesty and it is nice to see how much you have accomplished through all of this. Would love to have you as my personal business coach :) – just hired people but not that thrilled with the program. You keep it real and THAT is what it is all about. God Bless!

  65. Congratulations Chris. Happy for you to have a platform to say what you want to share. Praying it will bless many who read it.
    Randy

  66. Hey Chris, Must be somewhat cathartic just writing it all down. I can realate to wanting to explore finding happiness through developing your on consciousness – but not wanting to wear the bullsit aspect of it all on your sleeve. We don’t have to wear white flowy clothes and act like we’re on some happy drug in order to benefit from stuff like Tolle. In fact, those practices are really about simply eliminating all the bullshit. Doesn’t sound overly esoteric to me. It sure is hard sometimes getting the fuck out of our brains, though, isn’t it?

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      it is man, my Unlce Chris ( http://www.facebook.com/sonjan.mccombs ) has been meditating everyday for over 40 years, turned me onto Tolle in 2000, he actually gave me Autobiography of a Yogi when I was like 9 or 10… My Uncle as well as Tolle’s stuff helped to change my life, even if I’m wearing a Harley, Westside Barbell or Pantera shirt instead of white flowy clothes, just pictured myself in those in fact, HILARIOUS

      thanks Stephen

  67. Mark Greenwood says:

    Unbelievable as usual. No matter what you always seem to deliver great stuff. I know this blog will be kick-ass, just like the rest of the info products, blogs, and personal coaching you put out. I know I will be following. You’ve been a big help to me as I try to build my business showing a great deal of passion, patience, and positive influence as I take this journey. Though there may be some bumps along the road, you have a knack for helping your clients get past them. Your no B.S. attitude is refreshing in a world and industry full of B.S. gurus. You are the REAL DEAL. I know I look forward to following you through 2013 and beyond. Keep up the great work.

    Thanks,
    Mark

  68. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Thanks Mark, proud of you brother, you’ve come along way man (=

  69. Hey big guy,

    Just want to say that was a kick ass post, alot of us know your back story and can resonate with some of the stuff you’ve been through. To put it out there and show that you live learn and move forward instead of dwelling in the passed is a huge thing.

    You have directly and indirectly helped me so much through out my career, heck i have your other blog tattooed on my shoulder, dont think now i have to get this one done as well because that could get a little weird.

    Anyways bro can’t wait to see the content you write and to catch you next time Im in the states.

    TJ

  70. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Hey what’s up Travis… still waiting for you to add the dot com to that tat… ha ha ha

    Appreciate man, you’re quite the legend these days brother, proud of you man

  71. Dude,

    That’s real shit!

    Respect!

  72. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Respeck back (=

  73. Tim Hughes says:

    Chris,

    You provided me with some great spiritual advice about 18 months ago that remains with me every day. Keep delivering this content, it resonates with so many of us.

    Tim

  74. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    TIM! thanks awesome man, that’s what’s it’s all about

    glad it helped (=

  75. Holy shit Chris… Talk about laying it on the line. I love it man.
    I think that you get it, having come full circle and still having your family around. Master our own demons then dominate our lives. I don’t have the extreme addictions that you do, but I do dive into my work and become a shell of myself. This causes those in my life to get 25% of me when they deserve 100% because they give me 100%. My intense desire to succeed and have financial success so that I can enjoy the life that I want is causing me to short change my wife. It’s bullshit but it’s a demon that I struggle with. Like Charlie Sheen said, “I have one speed, GO!”.
    I’m looking forward to your thoughts and feelings being brought out in a non PC manner. If someone wants a PC kick in the ass they can go watch Opra.
    Enjoy the holiday with your family!

  76. I had some typos…

    Good for you Chris,

    You could see it coming out a little in your posts recently on KBL and you can let it flow even more here.

    Be you, your best outspoken you. People need and want to hear it.

  77. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    ALEX…. thanks man

  78. Chris,

    Just saw that you have a new site man… so far loving it… it’s always enlightening and entertaining (in a more serious, non-funny way) to read these kinds of introspective posts from you. I’m looking forward to seeing where this blog takes you.

    Congrats on your recent engagement by the way… keep up the good work bro.

  79. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Ben thank you so much man, excited about your new gym

  80. Nathaniel Dilworth says:

    Chris…. Just wanted to say,,,, You are Awesome in my book and Thank YOU for your HELP….. I never ever felt you where doing it just for the money… The way I see it is that people sometimes get misguided but a truly malicious person in nature doesn’t come full circle and stays the same no matter what… I think the original intent can become suppressed with good people but at the core never goes away just as a flame can be deemed just by taking some the oxygen away from it……It still burns but not just as bright… Your flame is now back though bro induced with the life giving oxygen of Positivity… Your first low point came with a high rebound so if this was your second low point….. I can’t wait to see how high you will go this time…. Thank you for all your Help CHRIS…

    Nate

  81. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Damn, Nate, thanks man…

    Super proud of you, I’m amazed by all the clients of your making dramatic transformations, probably more than any trainer I can think of

    You are a straight up fitness genius with a knowledge of training and nutrition like very few people on this planet, not just saying that, you’ve left facebook comments to tough training and nutrition questions of mine that have straight-up blown my mind

    Thanks again Nate

  82. Chris, In the season’s of Life, there are reason’s why we go thru things, why certain people come into/or out of our lives and why things don’t sometimes work out in our timeline. For these reason’s we don’t understand @ that moment, But after we GO THRU the valleys and climb the mountains, we receive the knowledge of Life Lessons (You know, the Test 1st, Lesson learned after). Making us stronger, wiser & a gift to others. Our trials & tribulations become Testimonies of the Reason’s for the Season’s in Life. Keep writing, Keep digging deep into that beautiful soul of yours and know you are called to do exactly what you are meant to do for others. Continue to be Blessed & Merry CHRIST MAS.

  83. Nathaniel Dilworth says:

    deemed = dimmed (sorry) writing to fast…

  84. Hey Big Guy,

    Love it mate, nothing but real life here, that is what it is all about, and that is what will resonate with so many people!!
    Congrats your new bundle of joy mate!! Nothing better.

    Making my way from Australia to Carson, California in July next year mate for the CrossFit Games, will have to try to catch up. Been a long time brother!!!

    Can’t wait to read the blog man..

    Scotty

  85. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Hey thanks brother, that’s so cool, I’m in Dana Point, south Orange County, would love to meet up my friend

  86. Sometimes we face adversity and there is a choice hide in fear or fight….. This blog is wake up call to the world that everyone has a choice to make regarding their own life style. Today, I chose to fight and stand up with truth about the past present and future. No longer I will be shameful for my past or background instead, I will hold my head up high… Thanks for the inspirations. keep writing.

  87. Damn Chris… I knew Gary Halbert was not dead, or raising pitbulls, This is just awesome Chris, I’ll be tuning in. Happy friggin Sunday Son!

  88. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Hey thanks Scott, love Halbert

    One of the biggest influences on my writing along with John Carlton, Corey Taylor, Henry Rollins and Elmore Leonard

  89. I stumbled on your blog today out of nowhere, I’m glad I did, it gives me hope for a young man I know named Chris whom I’ve been so worried about. Thanks

  90. Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

    Right on Dawn, thinking good thoughts for him

  91. hahaha…from the Guru Mastermind days…you were fun as hell back then…and I have followed you ever since…even quit a job of 22 years….to be online….just to have to get another job ‘for now’…unsubscribed to everyone but you, kern and the braintrust…just because they are cool to…
    I tell my son Chris, who is 19 and works at 24-hour fitness to follow you and learn…what you do….haha
    Thanks, you are the man…and write killer copy…the slippery slope kind…
    Charlie Slack

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Damn, Charlie Slack… what is up brother?

      Miss you man, you’re one of the funniest people I know

      Hope you’re good brother

  92. WilsonFitnessCoach says:

    Thank you…

  93. John Young says:

    Hey Chris…

    Wow…we’re twins in high school, I was in the same freaking place.
    I could always tell when my freshman English class paper came back
    to me as it was like Custard’s last stand…the paper was red with ink.

    In any event, I smoked my share of weed but don’t that much anymore
    as it seems to drag my ass down but I still like some really good stuff
    once in awhile.

    Loved Bill Hicks as he’s right on and love your blog, the light comes
    through brother…keep on, keeping on.

    Cheers,
    OB Juan

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Thanks John, man I know about Custards last stand

      Always nice to see a fellow Bill Hicks fan on here

      Thanks John!

  94. andy kelly says:

    inspirational chris,you are the truth my man

  95. Fred Sassani says:

    Great Blog Chris. I have never met you before in person but I have followed your blog and have learned a great deal from you. I think it really just comes down to this.. Just keep it simple and just be you. One of my favorite books of all time is “The Four Agreements” and it really lines up with what your talking about! I look forward to future blogs, and it’s refreshing to read a REAL blog!!
    best regards,

    Fred Sassani
    Austin, TX

  96. Wow, dude, I have no idea how I arrived here, but I LOVE IT. Seems about as real as it gets, and that’s something I admire in a person, let alone an IM-er. You’ll notice by my email addy that I don’t buy into the bullshit either. Can’t wait to keep reading what you have to say!

  97. Just made myself late out the door reading this, stumbled across from KBL and couldn’t stop reading. Great blog and am really looking forward to hearing more. You’re definitely someone whose style of writing and ideas both really resonate with me. Thanks Chris!

  98. Hey Chris,

    I’m from Romania, i love the way you write, it’s a gift of yours; like you said “you’re in a mission from God” :-)
    And yeah……you have no idea how many people you can help, from all around the world.
    You rock…keep it Big.
    Stelly

  99. Shawn Webb says:

    Chris,

    You are the man! I really appreciate your transparency and honesty, hard to come across in the world today. I feel like we would be good friends, because I feel like I have dealt with similar struggles in life, but I have come to a point in where I know the things of this world do not make us happy, we choose to be happy no matter what circumstance we find ourselves in. I am trying to start a business after an ugly, toxic break from my last employer at his gym. I have had a lot of resentment because of what I did for his business and the way he treated me after getting back fro some miltary tarining was bad. I know forgiveness is key, and in order to be successful i just got to take life in stride and keep moving and not let past trials hold me back from becoming what I know I can be. I really appreciate this post and have gret respect for you.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Shaun

      I know how that toxic stuff can be, and the resentments too, I got some crazy stuff I’m fighting right now, and I do my best to stay out of resentment, even when I gotta fight the fight

      thx again

  100. Chris Amison says:

    Hi Chris,

    Good stuff fella. many simalarities between your past a my own. Thanks for the mind fodder. Look forward to more.

  101. Aubrey says:

    Well, they say that everything happens for a reason and I’m stoked to have stumbled upon your blog. I was the introverted skinny girl with zero athletic ability…always the girl to make fun of growing up. I began CrossFit about two years ago and haven’t looked back. Signed up for my first competition later this month. Some people go to the bar to cope. I go to the bar too…but it’s loaded up with weights. Better than therapy! Your writing is so raw and empowering and I thank you for that, sir.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Damn Aubrey how cool is that?

      From where you come from and not diving head first into a competition

      Bravo Girl, Bravo

      • Thanks for the bravo! Competition is complete and even though my weaknesses were highlighted more than I’d like, I have zero regrets and won’t look back. Resting this week, spectating at the South Central CrossFit Regionals this weekend, then back to it. I really want to focus on my Olympic lifting…probably more confidence than anything. Frankly, there is something that is just so bad ass about me being a girl and lifting heavy shit. It’s empowering. Plus, it scares my boyfriend that I can dead lift more than his body weight! LOVE IT.

        I’m actually reading “The Stress Free Guide To Getting Shit Done” right now. Talk about convicting. We all need to take a course on how to chill the fuck out. Good stuff.

  102. Holy balls… I’m sure you hear this all the time, but I sort of feel like you are a kindred spirit and perhaps, the male version of myself. Or we definitely hung out in a past life. So, I quit working for “The Man” in January. I burned that mother down. Now, I’m hell bent on spreading as much good as possible – via training, personal coaching (but not of the cheesy, “life coach” mold) and just living fucking awesome and helping others do so. In short: if I could tour the US in an airstream trailer spreading straight talk, hope and real optimism that would be my pinnacle. Keep doing what you’re doing, you are definitely blazing a trail I’ve not seen in the “self help” space – which really lands with me. I think we need more people with this mindset and I absolutely dig DIG dig how you’re doing things.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Damn Shelley, you’re really good with words

      So cool you’re doing the coaching, training thing now, making a difference

      Yeah ya know, it’s funny, the typical life coach thing don’t vibe with me either

      one of the best ads I ever saw was for a Tag watch. The dude was chilling on his roof balcony, looking smart, handsome, confident and together

      and the tag line was “Doesn’t Need a Lifecoach”

      thx for the kind words Shelley

      • shelley says:

        From the soles of my shoes to the tips of my crazy curly top, thank you. I’m definitely making my way without a road map, and it’s crazy as hell but, I’ve always been a “choose your own adventure” sort of broad, so tackling the fear is all part of the adventure! I definitely want to hone my writing chops. Similar to you, it’s a huge release and passion of mine, but I find it falls to the bottom of my to-do list way too fucking much and I need to get a bit more fierce about protecting time to write and create a bit. Case in point: I have what I just know is going to be my NYT best-seller (“Hot Mess: One Chic’s Journey to the Brink of the Quarter-life Abyss and Back”) just sitting in my head waiting to be written…

        I’m definitely going to check out kicked back life – sounds like you provide a ton of support that could be hugely helpful to someone like myself (seeing as I’m also a CrossFit coach and PT). In other news: I try to respond to every single comment I get too – I’ve always thought it must mean a lot to those people who took the time… and it is, so thanks, much, much thanks.

        Last but not least: I need to get my eyes on that Tag ad! Priceless! It’s like they wanted to say: “Self-help is for pussies. Self-actualization is for dudes that wear a Tag.”

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      wow, that’s so cool Shelley

      some great points too

      this: (think Jillian Michaels meets Tony Robbins meets Bethenny Frankel with less screaming, cheese and divorce).

      Is AWESOME

  103. cari_ann says:

    hell yeah!! I can’t tell you what I exactly Googled which landed me on your blog today ….but it was something along the lines of ‘being a bigger badass’. (yeah… I spend my lazy time looking up shit like that, ha!) your “37 ways to be a badass” post is spot on and the site and your whole vibe is good stuff. The world needs more actual life rockstars blogging about living a kick ass life on the bright side like you do here….in a way that doesn’t make people like me want to barf :) A breath a fresh air amongst a sea of self proclaimed “life experts” out there selling follow your dreams good vibes and their services. I smiled outloud (literally) when I read your comment above #doesntneedalifecoach. that’s 100% awesome .

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Cari

      1. You look up super awesome stuff on the internet it sounds like, love it, LOL

      2. And yeah, one of the reasons I started this blog was cuz of the all the same ol same ol watered down personal development type stuff online, I just knew there’s a ton of people who got turned off by it but would still love some of the principles

      • cari_ann says:

        Looking it up is half the battle :) finding cool shit is harder. I have been insanely motivated today and Im happy I came across your blog. next time I google super awesome anything ….I expect to see ya there!

  104. Brigitte says:

    What, no Reservoir Dogs? C’mon!? I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this blog. Keep kickin’ ass, I’m here to listen! :)

  105. WOW… I don’t even know where to start, and I’m a writer and can “spew” with the rest of ‘em! I was on FB checking up on my crossfit peeps who are competing today at the Southeast Regionals. I’m so happy that I stumbled across your blog, though I know nothing in life is by accident.
    First of all, your story is truly amazing and one that should be told in any way it can. As someone who also goes “right for the jugular” I can relate to your rawness, vulnerability and sheer talent to give people inspiration they never knew possible. I think the only thing I could really say is thank you for sharing. I resonate with EVERYTHING you speak about. People often tell me I’m brave when I read my work, but I don’t look at it like that. For me, how could I NOT share??? I love the quote you have up there from Henry Rollins about scar tissue. Hell yea! There is tremendous strength in our scars and their stories. I would be selling myself and everyone around me short if I didn’t share them. I never look at my scars as weaknesses or afraid who is going to judge me… I’ve lived through it. Either you come out on the other side or you don’t. I think blogs like this is what life is all about… F#&* money, power, status, etc. People’s stories, triumphs, failures, emotions, growth, spiritual awakenings, love, relationships, well-being, to name a few, is what the makes the world spin and keeps the mind alive. I have a blog ,http://wordsrxd.com, but yours is what I will have in mind as I remodel and broaden mine. Writer to writer, thanks for the gut-wrenching inspiration… it’s what drives my soul and pushes me through the next door, even if there are 10 dragons behind it! Rock on and I look forward to more words…

  106. Hey Chris,
    I just stumbled across your fan page then followed the link here.

    Your blog is like a breeze of fresh air. I like you. I like how you write. I like your attitude.

    Keep it up man. Your new fan.

    Tone Loc

  107. Awesome seems a little to simple. I just read 37 ways. I am a nurse who works with people fighting cancer. Everything I read this morning was something I would like to share. Thanks for streaming some common sense positive.
    Look forward to reading the next :)

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey Dawnie, thank you and I commend you on your work with cancer patients, I’m not sure I could do that, it must be really intense. Thank you for what you do

  108. You’re an inspiration.

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks Raunak, that means a lot man, in fact, you don’t know how much those three simple words typed there meant to me brother

      sounds gay!

      but it’s true

  109. Hey man, I was turned onto you by a buddy of mine who said… “I never read blogs… have never found one I resonate with… but you gotta check THIS one out because it speaks to me”. I checked it out… and you’re nailing it man.

    The part where you talk about the phase you went through where everything you did was for you… was money centered… not fulfilling… I’m just now seeing the daylight on the other side of that same phase right now in my life. It’s weird how you even fall into that phase… and while in the middle of it you don’t even know you’re in it until there’s a wakeup call. Mine was from my wife getting so damned frustrated a few times in the last year she said, “everything revolves around you… it seems my priorities always come after yours”. I denied it at first… but now realize how I was / am being a douche.

    Anyhow man, great blog. I’ve rearranged a ton of shit in my life this past year. Sold a business that took too much of my time… started a software startup that’s crushing it now that I love… and putting my #1 priorities on my health, happiness, and family now… which feels great (funny thing is, when you do that, you tend to make more money and enjoy it more by default). Crazy shit.

    Keep up the great work my man.

    – T

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      AWESOME

      yeah man, I think money obsession ( often for ego reasons) is a phase a lot of men go thorough

      The fortunate ones evolve

      glad to hear you’re one of them brother

      excited for your new path

  110. Hey Chris
    Found your blog on Facebook. Going through a pretty dark time at the moment and much of what you write is bringing some much needed light, keep blogging and I’ll keep reading!

  111. Retired Soldier says:

    Chris,

    I rarely speak more than a few “personal” words or of “intimate” things. Although we’ve never had a lot of money, my wife and I have always had a wealth of love for each other, even through our darkest times.

    One thing that worries me about your progress is that you don’t use “we” and “us” very much. You tend to focus on the “I”, “me”, and other personally “self” identifying words/phrases. My wife and I try hard to not use words that refer to us as individuals. That tends to lead us back to the selfishness that is so common in this world. I will go so far as to include my two kids if the wife word shouldn’t apply. And if either wife or kids shouldn’t apply, I always fall back to God. Not everyone is a God believing person though. But those who aren’t should have SOMETHING in their lives they consider greater than themselves to fall back on and talk too when all else fails. Or talk to from the start to find guidance. The only needed criteria being, something/someone beyond yourself in which to confide and talk to.

    Now. Talking man to man, I will go into the “self” way of things because lets face it. We are, as men, incredibly selfish and, if an Alpha Male, physically and psychologically dominating to those around us, on purpose. We use our size, strength and mental capacity to ensure we get the first promotion amongst our peers. The first recognition for a job well done. In other words, as you have said yourself, we are over-achievers.

    We stay later and work harder just to make a point to those we find less than our own, supreme selves. We have a knack for the given job and we take absolutely no prisoners in showing the world what we are capable of. We are often NOT “team” players although, we will appear to be on the “team.” Given that SINGLE chance though, we will squirt through the lines and accelerate beyond our team mates, often making them look slow or clumsy, doing so with great personal satisfaction.

    Ah yes. The days before “humble” took a rumble in my world. To be that arrogant and clueless again I would give…….nothing. Dear Lord, I would, indeed, give everything to go back to then with what I know now and treat people the way I should of from the get go. But the past is gone, the present is all that matters and the future is just a slim memory of what yesterday taught us.

    Don’t get me wrong. *Planning* for the future is one thing. *Living* it today is something altogether different! In other words, don’t get the cart ahead of the horse! LOL! Which is a lesson you have clearly learned, my Internet brother.

    I guess what I am trying to say is this. We come from very different backgrounds and we have taken different paths in life. However, regardless of the challenges through out our lives, we seem to end up on the exact same path regardless of where we started. I’ve had substance abuse issues myself. Been in rehab for it. I just managed to hold my shit together long enough to get out of the Army and do it later on.

    The different walks of life in which a lot of us seem to come from makes no difference. It is the human condition, especially the male condition in which we tend to speak of here, that makes us one and the same. You are a highly successful businessman while I was a highly successful Army guy. The results, though, come out the same.

    We have learned what it is to be humble. We have had to learn what it is to love outside of our own little selfish worlds. We have had to realize that without all those wonderful, loving, caring people in our lives, we are NOTHING. Money, possessions, intentions. None of it means a damned thing.

    Promises are just words spoken with emphasis back then.

    Today though, a promise comes with a blood check. We will die before we bounce it.

    Thank you for your words of encouragement and fellowship. In much of it, you have given me a new way to think of certain things while in others, you and I just reaffirm what we should of known long ago. Oh well. Live and learn, learn and live and give ‘er hell!

    • Chris McCombs Chris McCombs says:

      Hey thanks again for sharing from the heart brother

      This:

      “Today though, a promise comes with a blood check. We will die before we bounce it.”

      Is beyond awesome

      Many truths is what you speak here

      Funny, selfishness is been a trait of mine for so long, still is, I just do my best to to drop it when i catch it

      But man, is it deep in my blood and bones

  112. Tim Goh says:

    Dude. I love the stuff that you’ve become! Every once in a while you see goodness formed out of the madness of life and you think, maybe there IS a God working through all this! I totally respect what you’ve learnt through it all.

  113. Chris,

    I love what you write and the “edge” you put on it. I’m halfway in both worlds-love yoga and weight training, do some work with LOA, but I’m working on my badass self, too. I don’t swear much myself, but I don’t mind well-placed cursing when it makes the point. Keep it up, Brother, you’re speaking the truth. ROCK ON!!

  114. Dude… I guess I need not wonder now if you are in fact an internet marketer as I am working on being. I wrote a post on one of your recent blogs… wondering if in fact you did make $ off this blog and speculating that you indeed could if you werent. Now haveing read several of your posts, like this one. I have been set strait. Should have been in bed hours ago, but your stuff is like my new crack dude. Love it. “Real reconize Real” a mentor of mine says… and Now I really understand what that means. Keep this shit rollin brother… Learniing and loving it. My son is an Aspireing personal trainer and gym rat trying to find his place in the world (as am I really) who has lost like 180 lbs or some crazy shit… I tuned him onto both of your blogs, Im sure youll have another fan. Thanks for doing what you do man.

  115. You rock! Love your site and your wisdom.

  116. I had to leave a note her because this was an amazing post man. I’m going to email this to a couple of people who might need it.

  117. Chris, marry me! ;)

    You are lovely. I look forward to reading your posts. I am on a path of continuous learning, but I have recently stumbled. I think your style of writing and thinking will help me to get back on the path. I am grateful to have found you when I did.

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