There are people who expect you to live by their rules. Often, it’s because they have no control of their own lives and find it more soothing to their sad little hearts to try to get others to live up to their expectations. And you happen to be one of those “others.”
There are people to whom you mean nothing more than what you can do for them. There are A LOT of these people. They see you as a pawn in their self-indulgent little chess game.
There are people who want to see you fail. Your setbacks make them feel a tiny bit better about their own life, even if just for a few seconds. In their eyes, your suffering is worth that little rush of superiority they get. I’ve encountered a lot of this in the business and marketing world, where oftentimes one’s success is measured by how much better he’s doing than everybody else.
Now I’m not just talking about your competitors, rivals, and enemies here.
Some of these people are probably close to you—amongst your coworkers, friends, and maybe even in your own family.
And then there’s you.
Now, if you’re like me, you’ve been the one who’s projected undue expectations on others. You’ve enjoyed seeing people fail—even good people you genuinely care about. Maybe you’ve even used the living shit out of someone—or lots of someones—just so you could get your way.
If you’re like me and catch yourself doing this stuff from time to time, ease up.
Give people the freedom to be and do their own thing. Pull people up and root for their success. And instead of looking at people for what they can do for you, come from a place of what you can do for them.
And for the ones who want to use you or see you fall—don’t give them the satisfaction.
It doesn’t do you, or them, any good.
Instead, lead by example as someone who lives by a solid code and walks their own path, regardless of what others think, say or do.
Talk soon, Big Chris
P.S. I’d love to hear your comments below
Artwork up top of badass bear head by Joshua Coffy