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Hey Chris,
Been following ur blog for a while – havnt commented b4 tho.. I think ur blog awesome. Keep doing what ur doing! I always love reading what u have to say & it always gets me thinking.
Cheers!
Bryleigh
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Awesome post, Chris.
“The average 4 year old laughs 300 times a day, the average 40 year old only 4.
What the fuck happened to us?”
Well put.
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Thanks Leigh, always appreciate kudos from a fellow word smith (=
ReplyAfter reading this post, I realize how badly I needed something like this at this point in my life. I know I will be feeling way more awesome after reading this. I let this post be my “sherpa” and wouldn’t you know it, I find myself much higher on the mountain than I was earlier. I can imagine the impact this post will make in the many people’s lives who read it and I am blown away because I know that these 26 things really can help lift people (including myself) up out of the ditch we’re wallowing in for whatever reasons. I appreciate the guidance and tips that will make my life more awesome and fulfilling and maybe even blissful.
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Damn thanks Shaun, you have no idea how much these words mean to me, not to sound gay or nothing, NOT that there’s anything wrong with that, but damn bro, seriously, that means a lot
ReplyYou did it again. This is truly a post to be reckoned with. I say this every time but this is an amazing post. You are very talented. You are doing a great thing here. I hope your blog reaches people all over the planet because this is stuff that needs to be heard. I hope you never stop writing because you can help thousands of people with your words
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Awesome post Chris I started reading ur blog not that long ago but I love ur honesty man ur back story n all especially for me because I came out of south LA n had the sort of problems with the law. keep up ur great writing bro cause I’ll b reading.
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hey thanks Jose, yeah that’s a rough place man, glad you made it out, especially glad your past the shit with the law
thanks bro
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Chris,
Great blog. Great message. I sent it privately to some people I really care about & shared it on my Facebook page with 5000 of my closest friends 🙂
Look forward to more.
Tony
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Awesome, thanks a million Tony, checked out your site, damn dude, you’re hardcore!
ReplyHey Chris absolutely luv reading your posts – I am 59 years old and studied to become a personal trainer 4 years ago – wanted so much to help other people and not just talk to a computer! Your blogs give me so much to think about as I still haven’t been able to get out there as a personal trainer and help others – I need to get over the fear of not being good enough and a lot of what you write here is my problem – although I have taken one step and are now doing crossfit even at my age I am loving it because it has taken me out of my comfort zone! There is a start!
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Hey LYN, appreciate you sharing, you might find this post useful:
https://chrismccombs.net/overcoming-self-doubt/
Reply“When you push your emotions down into a dark and unseen place, they’ll enjoy a steady regimen of push-ups, squats and deadlifts… only to come back when you least expect it to ambush you with 50 pounds more muscle on their frame, and twice the speed and power.”
hahaha very, very well said bro. That is gold!
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Chris,
Holy Crap what a post! Awesome material. I can tell you put your Heart and Soul into this. Thanks man. I need to print this and review daily!
Thank,
Brian Meisenburg
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Thanks Brian, I could use from reviewing it daily as well
Hey, come to think of it, maybe that’s why I wrote the damn thing! (=
ReplyAnother brilliant post Chris, still laughing about the 12 year old swedish boy so i can tick numbef 9 off the list for today 🙂
I cant wait to read your book put my name top of your list for pre order I love your writing its entertaining, educational and inspirational and above all real.
Keep doin what youre doin.
J

ahhhh thanks Jamie
that stokes me out, glad you find it entertaining, educational and inspiring, I guess you could say those are three big things I’ve been shooting for (=
ReplyAnother great post, Chris; you continue to write from the heart and it resonates in my mind…my life. I agree with Rollins that a lack of iron will ruin your life. I also agree that it’s easier to wallow in self pity (and late sleepless nights fueled by ice cream and Life cereal) than to face life and get off my ass. I have been training since 12 … and when I’m in the game, I feel unstoppable. When I don’t, and those inactive days become weeks and months…I feel like I’d welcome the sweet kiss of a freight train just to shut off the stress and worry. (no worries though; freight trains aren’t my type) Keep on writing, Chris, and let me know when the book comes out. I’ll be right there in line!
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Thanks Andrew, yeah I did an entire post abut why I train inspired by Rollins essay “The Iron” https://chrismccombs.net/i-am-i-train/
“I feel like I’d welcome the sweet kiss of a freight train just to shut off the stress and worry”
powerful
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Awesome James, the way to overcome it is to just keep trudging forward
ReplyOften times it is easy to get wrapped up in life and the responsibilities that come with it and we forget to enjoy it. This post came at a great time for me and I hope many other people are able to read this and feel the positive impact as well.
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BAM!!
EPIC C!
1. FEEL BAD… Positive self talk can lead you in a deluded path sometimes!!
Saying it’s all rosy, when really it isn’t! Epic Post!!
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I concur!
And btw, BAM! is one of the highest compliments someone can give IMO
so thanks Chris!
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Fantastic work Chris. And there’s not one thing on the list that can’t be achieved on a daily basis.
Thank you from the UK 🙂

You are fucking awesome. I get sick of listening to that law of attraction bullshit!!!
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Thank you brother!
I just bookmarked this page. Like most great information I feel it does no harm to re-read every few days until you truly soak up the mesage.
I see you quoted Eckhart Tolle! That guy is AWESOME. I’m half way through his book ‘The Power Of Now’. It’s pretty sweet when you practice what he says. Amazing how different everything feels when you allow what he is saying just to be.
Anyway thanks again Chris
Keep ’em coming,
Sean

thanks Sean
that book changed my life, have been through it many times
check out his audio program Living a Life of Inner Peace
can be listened to over and over and over again, AMAZING
ReplyHoly shit! You tore it up man! I had to read this in 3 sittings and I’m going to re-read it another time to take in fully. The wisdom you put in this post in phenomenal!
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Love it!!! Nobody just hangs their balls out like you brother. I’m going to read this again tomorrow.
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thanks Dave, means a lot brother, hope all is well with you, the fam and Grinder
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read it, loved it and believe it.. So love the way you express yourself, really spurs me on to stop being such a mouse… and find my own style of writing, I am wondering Chris do you just write or do you speak it then write it? I too would buy your book and share in with all my peeps in the UK and Ireland.. PS I would add one 27) dark chocolate with coconut lol…
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ha ha
hey Eileen
I’ve tried speaking it but end up with so many mistakes that I get frustrated. So just been writing, even though I don’t officially know how to type yet, plan on learning soon though
You’re comment just stoked me out, a few minutes ago I was beating myself over the head for being such a shitty writer
thanks a ton girl (=
ReplyLove how you write Chris and love what you have to say. Thank you.
Today’s blog really got to me. You see, I thought I’d left a marriage a very long time ago but I’ve never been allowed to leave it in reality. He’s never let go and tries to hurt me emotionally, financially and at every opportunity. It’s been a bit of a private hell that I can’t even tell friends about.
Because this has been over 10 years now I’ve become angry and resentful at the stress I feel waiting for the next blow to come out of no where. Usually it happens when I’m happiest- birthdays, special occasions etc. Not having control over my future because I am his hobby eats me from the inside out. I’ve tried so many ways to stop this but when someone operates just within the law there’s nothing you can really do.
I realised today when I read your blog that “acceptance” is what’s missing.
Maybe if I accept that I can’t control his behaviour and actions but I can choose how I react to his (to some degree).
I train and eat well, have a job I’m passionate about and a happy family life. This has helped me so much. You’re so right about looking after yourself and keeping fit and strong. Then the hard times are so much easier to take, your good days, well…. there’s just so many more of them.
I’m thinking I need to get into mediation and clear my head and put a lid on this anger thing. Can you recommend anyone, books, apps, dvd’s for mediation please Chris? I’d appreciate it.
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Hey Anon, wow
That sounds tough. Thank you so much for sharing, I feel honored you felt you could lay that out here.
I once had an ex girlfriend stock me for like 6 months and it sucked, caused me a lot of unwanted stress.
Yeah we can’t change anyone, that,s for sure
Check out the two words I added to this popular prayer, the YOU and the ME
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change ( YOU ), the courage to change the things I can ( ME ) and the wisdom to know the difference
We can only change ourselves, at lest that’s been my experience
Meditation has helped me a ton, I just literally sit focus on my breath. In, and out.
Tons of great methods, books and tools out there
But just doing that is the classic, and a great place to start
thanks again for sharing Anon
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Lots of great ideas and a fun read! Definitely going to share 🙂
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I have been looking for a kick up the arse…..you have finally provided it.
You rock!
X

Love it once again Chris.
Something that stands out to me is that you identified 25–er–well 26 things that don’t require anything other than our own decision to be happy.
Too many times people go through life bitching, whining and moaning about everything they don’t have and what’s wrong in their lives without ever stopping to realize that they have everything within themselves to make their life into what they want.
Very well put here Chris. I enjoyed every word of it 🙂
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Kevin, so true, it’s all within us
in fact, the more we look outside, the further we sway from true fulfillment
Thanks for sharing brother
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KB, so awesome how good came out of the bad, or what appeared to be bad. I live near the pacific too, in fact I can see the sun going down over it right now (:
Happy to hear about your journey , thanks a ton for sharing KB
ReplyChrismccombs.net the blog that just keeps giving. This is a fantastic blog fella. Time for you to put a bullet in the head of that little shit self doubt, because you can write my man.
Keep writing and we’ll keep reading.
Rise Above
Andy

Great post Big Chris!
Getting away from the health and fitness stuff that people like me are known for, I use plenty of the others a lot of the time with myself and my communities to set up the right environment that enables better decisions being made by me or any individual.
One other I like right now is the attitude to learn new stuff and how awesome that feels. Learn something you want to learn or gets you excited about the results it’ll bring when you apply is a powerful stimulant
The zombie culture of nowadays in the 9-5 world is to get your job done and then look for instant gratification elsewhere…something pretty shitty that maybe makes you feel awesome for 5 minutes! : – )
Educating yourself is very horny baby!
Be well!
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ha ha
very horny… hilarious
Yeah, and the zombie culture is no way to live
I have nightmares about it
thanks for sharing Mike
ReplyLoved this blog Chris. Got it from Tony Blauer and am having my whole family of men read it. It applies to everyone and there are tidbits in there that people know already but need to read in print and act on. It’s hopefully going to help my eldest son out on his own for the first time. Sometimes common sense isn’t so obvious!
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I’m with you Beth, uncommon sense is the way sometimes
thanks for sharing beth and wishing the best for your son (=
ReplyHi Chris;
I have been dealing with depression, off and on, all my life. This past year, since turning 60, it has come on strong and has been hell. But, I am determined to get and handle on this monkey … I will conquer!
I am in congnitive behavioural therapy, and attend a discussion group once a week. I refuse to take antidepressants or to see a psychiatrist. Well I went to this guy (psych) for two visits and that was it for me….delving into my childhood is not for me (been there, done that years ago). I know and truly believe it is my core beliefs that need to be coaxed into a positive and more healthy way of being. Anyways, I googled “what experiences will shift my core beliefs”. One of the hits I got was a blog by Marcha Lucas, Ph. D. called “Rewire Your Brain for Love”. And she referred to your blog as follows: “This guy has written a totally f*cking awesome post. Much wisdom with much authenticity and much foul language. Quite honestly, I love it”. So, I clicked on the link which directed me to your site.
Wow! I loved it too! Thank you….your words and attitude have given me inspiration to keep on being strong with my self-appointed journey of self-therapy. I know I can do it….I will do it. I will be reading it again and again because I love the way you are you, with your ‘proud to me’ attitud…..which in turn will give me strength to let go of what I think I am supposed to be and embrace who I am. Thank you again.
Love, Maureen

Thanks so much Maureen
Looks like you’re searching for some good stuff there
Stoked Marcha linked to me, that was super cool of her
Keep moving forward in your Journey Maureen, the ride is short, we must enjoy it
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ReplyThis is my first blog comment ever and the only one I ever had a strong urge to make. You’re article gave words to my thoughts. For the past year I have had very bad insomnia and anxiety, and I can’t tell you how much your words encourage me. I am a 22 year old, Metallica loving, music loving, movie loving, 12 year wrestler, athlete, beach bum…etc. I want to be a musician, I want to be a little kid, I want to surrender and be ambitious at the same time. I just want to tell you THANK YOU for writing this… I laughed, teared, thought, and smiled while reading. You are an amazing writer… not because you wrote something that I didn’t know but because you said it in such a way that I REALIZE it… I FEEL it. For my eyes and my brain, you are the best and most suitable writer there is. In fact I didn’t even feel like I was reading… I felt like we were talking face to face. Thank you so much.
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FUCK YES
Allen, brother, thank you so much for sharing this
And when you said “in fact I didn’t even feel like I was reading… I felt like we were talking face to face”
Man, that’s about as awesome of a compliment that I can get IMO
glad you found it helpful (=
ReplyHi! Great blog! This is the first time I read it. A friend posted it on FB, I thought I’d only read the article he posted, but that was an hour ago and I’m still reading! Thanks for your very insightful tips. Kind regards from Barcelona.
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Ha ha, I’m honored to have taken part in this hour of your life (=
ReplyAWESOME read mate….brings you back to Earth in so many ways….thanks Chris..
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Man, your blog is great! Many good thoughts and i like your way of writing! Keep going! And you write about training. I often cheat this way on running. I say to myself “just a slow jog” and then after i warmed up i don’t want to screw it, so I run as far as i can:) and never regret!
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i can’t ‘fuck yeah’ this enough. thank you, massive doses of gratitude and inspiration. i travel in many ‘conscious’ communities, and it’s rare to find someone who bridges the gap between timeless/esoteric/energetic/wtf-ever truth and daily life. you, dear sir, have done so with humor, finesse, and a heaping helping of testosterone. reminded me of a bunch of stuff i knew but wasn’t applying, gave me some new insights and fresh perspective, and made me laugh out loud. repeatedly. consider me re-inspired to wake up tomorrow, train hard, sit still soft, and drink my god damn spirulina/kale/bee pollen breakfast smoothie. fan at first read.
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Awesome Ryan, I love, and appreciate, the way you put this
“Humor, finesse, and a heaping helping of testosterone”
I’ll take it, cool of you to say
I actually found a new blog I like the other day, lots of the timeless/esoteric/energetic/wtf-ever truth and daily life , minus the testosterone, good stuff http://www.highexistence.com/blog
ReplyWork of art, Chris. A lot of great advice from a variety of sources. I happened upon your blog from another that I follow, and I’ve signed up to follow yours too.
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Love your stuff big man. I started following you out of curiosity for what I expected to be a train wreck. I have found myself really enjoying your stuff. True, honest and no BS…
Keep on trucking bud 🙂
Christopher
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Hey Chris!
I’m a fairly new follower of your blogs, and I’ve loved every one of them! Especially this one! I used to be a really happy, bubbly person, but all that slowly started slipping away because of various circumstances, I’ve been working of regaining my own personal joy, but I haven’t had much of a plan or a road map. But lookie here! Just what the doctor ordered! *high five*
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hey thanks Bobbie
really appreciate your kind words
this one may or may not apply to you as well
https://chrismccombs.net/how-to-make-the-comeback-of-your-life/
thanks again
ReplyI Googled “Why are some people’s’ lives so fucking easy?” and found your blog. Thank you for not being sickly sweet and idealistic. I don’t believe shiny happy people are qualified to give advice on how to not feel like crap. I appreciate getting perspective from someone who knows about the struggle and can appreciate the ups and downs of life. I actually think I’m going to listen to you..lol. Seriously though, it was great reading and a refreshing delivery.
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hey thanks Sara
super cool of you to say
and the shiny happy people thing is too funny (=
ReplyDamn son (I’m obviously just catching up on old stuff). This is so epic it could have bee 5 blog posts. Heck I just scrolled down read quick to leave a comment. Now I have to go back to the top, grab a pot of coffee, and start reading. Epic work.
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ha ha, thanks man
I like the way you said “son” … my friend Zach Even-esh does that to everyone… it sounds so awesome
I need to start using that word more
keep doing your thing Patrick, you’re making a big difference out there brother
ReplyThis hasn’t been the best year for me, by a long shot. Directionless-ness and depression punctuated by stress events that left me with a heart condition. I’ve been like Allie Brosh from Hyperbole and a Half – except not as cute or charmingly, badly rendered in MSPaint.
A friend of mine posted your “How to be a BadAss” on Facebook and I’ve been slowly, thoughtfully, devouring your stuff ever since like a box of mental chocolate.
It’s mattered. A lot.
So don’t stop.
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hey thanks Suzi
I’m really glad to hear it’s helping
you can definitely rise above all you’re going through
I have no doubt Suzi
ReplyJust stumbled on your blog for the 1st time Chris…gotta say you’re a BAAAD Muthafucka 🙂
Your article and blog is awesomeness personified!
Your insights are ridiculously well thought out and communicated….but even more impressive is your advice not only is a joy to read, and feel inspired by…but it’s fucking actionable.
I’m crystal clear on a few things I’m going to start doing (or continue more regularly than I currently do).
I do have a question for you…
Aside from the immense value you share in your “content”…your skills as an exceptional writer kept smacking me in the face as I kept marveling at your use of the language.
The metaphors you used in the article were brilliant. My question is, if I wanted to learn how to write and communicate as you do, what resources. books or guides would you recommend?
And I don’t mean just good books on writing in general etc.
I want “actionable” steps to take, & get whoopass at writing articles. Just as you’ve done in this very blog post. What’s awesome is you didn’t just write some vague advice on improving the mind and body…you said here’s 25 specific things…and here’s exactly what to do.
Not “eat healthy food” and feel better….instead…”juice good shit in the juicer and feel great”.
Do you know of a guide etc that teaches how to write compelling, engaging articles in your “do this…do that” action steps way?
Please offer any advice you may have.
Thanks and you’ve got a fan for life.
Abhik
P.S. Fan of Pantera and Tool….like I needed ANY more reasons to think you’re a bad mofo !! 🙂
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hey right on, thanks Abhik
and yeah, gotta love Tool and Pantera (=
ReplyYou always make me think – you have a way of making complex things simple and understandable. But I tend to make life complicated 🙂 I can vouch for the laughter part. I love to laugh at myself and my 3 year old granddaughter gets me laughing all the time. Life is good!
ReplyPlain, unedited TRUTH! Read it, absorbed it, LIVING IT and sharing it!
THANK YOU!
ReplyChris,
I absolutely love this post! One of the best in 2013!
Not only is the content true and can give guidance to those who need it most (and be a reminder to all of us) but it is also refreshing to see somebody using language “in the now” to explain essential elements of living that so called trainer, gurus, or whatever else one could call those charlatans (oh, this one sounds just right) would complicate in order to give it more “meaning”.
So say it in your words: Fuck them and love your work instead!
Volker
ReplyChris…this is really good freakin stuff! This is similar but BETTER than what I wrote several years ago. My original article was The Seven Healthy Habits. I believe you listed 6 of the 7. As a Chiropractor, my focus is on Health. I rewrote that 1 page 7 paragraphs to a 25 page online study course. I will look forward to reading more of your stuff! Keep up the kick ass stuff!
Dr. G
ReplyYou are such a badass, Chris. Your words have helped pull me out of some dark places. For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been switching my bracelet on a daily basis when I have or say a negative thought. It helps. Thank you for making my days better. Keep on keepin’ on.
ReplyChris,
To support your thesis in your ‘about’ section…I’m a suburban mother of three with no tattoos, no law-breaking history, no drinking or drugs, who thinks that ‘suck’ is a swear….and I love this blog. I forwarded it to my teen daughter who asked me how to get rid of resentment. I bet she’ll gasp that Mom sent an article with the word Fuck in the title.
I love tell-it-like-it-is people like you. Thanks.
Brilliant!
The title caught my eye in a Tweet. The content is a bombshell. I spent the better part of the afternoon digesting this post. I have added it to my bookmarks (a rare feat for a blog post). I recognize myself in the intro. I am a member of the Bored class. And I definitely eat too much junk and do not move enough.
There are many jumpstart ideas in this post. Any one of them may trigger an avalanche of awesomeness.
Thank you.
ReplyHi chris…. This really got to me…i’m turning 17 tomorrow and already feel so unhappy. Few things amuse me and i’m constantly disappointed. My siblings have noticed this i presume because they constantly try to make me smile… I’m really glad i came across this because it seems like my ticket to my old bubbly sarcasric self…..i’m compelled to say thank you
ReplyGood stuff. Way to call it like it is. I only disagree with number 25, Do Randomly Awesome Shit. It is an impossible cliché that sounds cute, but is terrible advice. I would say Do Regular Purposefully Awesome Shit. Otherwise I might as well do random really fucked up shit as well. Probably not a good idea if the random fucked up shit is bashing in random skulls with a baseball bat.
ReplyDude! Awesome post, really lifted my mood! What I like about it is that you have a great writing style and nice humour, I laughed multiple times during reading it. And wanna know how I found this post? I wrote “I’m feeling fucked” in google, and this was in the top results. Awesome, this is really what I needed right now. Most of posts are about “secret ways to feel happy” and you know they say by doing this you’ll be xyz whatever fuck etc.. but this post is just basic stuff in your life that are being overlooked in the 21st century, and you do a great job raising awareness of this stuff.
ReplyHey Chris, I recently found out about your blog from a facebook share someone had made and I just wanted to tell you that you’re awesome! Reading your posts has taught me so much about myself and has with out a doubt given me something that my life had been missing. Any time I want to get enlightened and inspired, all I need to do is read one of your posts and it instantly lights a roaring fire inside of me. Thank you for being so generous with your knowledge! You fuckin’ rock brother!
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awe shit Rimas that’s awesome
thanks so much for sharing with me man
ReplyI have been a follower of yours for awhile, first time to comment.
You hit the nail on the head on this post. After a failed relationship two years ago, I felt lost for quite some time, tried to reconcile, that didn’t work. So I did something to challenge myself, which was run in warrior dash.
I was weighing in at 260+lbs, but damn it, I finished.
I started working out, not consistently, I am only human, but it gets easier all the time.
This post like all the others of yours seem to come at the right time.
Thank you for be straight up in your face about life. (Take a look at my site jeremygatica.net, just getting started with a blog that will hopefully be as hard hitting as yours) << you can edit this out.
Thanks again!
Hiya Chris,
really great post and a lot of life lessons to be learned here…there are many of us out that need reminding at times how awesome this life is that we have, you have done a great job just doing that with your very entertaining post.
Most of what you have said has got me through some difficult and baiting times in the past, and it is with lessons like these that i go ahead, always with a smile on my face and a bounce in my step.
Thankyou, Alex
Had to comment. Found this on a random Google search. Most concise digestible thing I’ve ever read on the subject of “happiness”. Speaking of reading, lots in here. Self Determination Theory, Jung, Dyer, dietary, physical, and metaphysical wisdom. I might just laminate this and carry it around.
Only one negative comment is don’t bag on Tool and group them like that. Underneath that intense metal sound is a deep, uplifting message of optimism and beauty. Take a trail run to Lateralus or give a good listen to 46-2 or Parabola.
If you’re ever in Denver look me up. I’d love to meet you my friend. You’re pretty badass!
ReplyHello Chris,
You know, I cannot actually remember how I just found your absorbing and enlightening website.
But I think I was guided here by the Divine/Universe/Fate, or whatever label you might want to put on the pulleys and wires that govern our destiny.
Lots of things you have written resonate with me and dovetail into what I need/think at the moment.
I was meant to find your writings for a reason. So thanks for the advice you give.
The Universe is a vastly interesting place, if only we take the time to live in the Now.
Thank you
Jack
Very good post. I own a gym and have been a trainer for a good many years and will attest to the power of positive thought and the usage of negative energy/situations as a motivator to break free of the negativity and succeed. Some will disagree but there’s a great line in a Steve Earle song that I believe rings true. Love would hold no charm if it wasn’t for the pain.
ReplyI know this is an old blog but I couldn’t stop myself from commenting. If you still read these comments, I just wanted to say thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
I’ve had a lot going on in my life over the last year and I always had the mentality that “I have no control over it” but your post has opened my eyes. I haven’t been living, I’ve been a shell of my once happy self and the advice in this blog has really helped me find the motivation to get on track again.
I hope you see this as I would like you to always remember what a great thing you’ve done by taking the time to write this.
ReplyI was searching for something coz my girlfriend suffers and believes in a dreaded disease called “depression,” something which i don’t believe in, and accidentally stumbled upon your door(blog). I opened, entered and wow. So many rooms filled with so much wonder. Dude, you rock, and what i like most of all, is how plain, simple and achievable you lay it out.
Thank you so much.
Dude this article made my day! Thanks for all your insight. It really helped me put a lot of things that’s going on in my life in perspective!
ReplyThank fuck for this.
I’ve been battling some interesting…. stuff for a while, and am coming out the other side, but need reminders to keep getting me off my arse and looking after myself.
I’ve been terrified of being in my house for 5 years, after I was confronted with some dude in my bedroom who’d broke in to my house.
Sleep deprivation. Terror. Chaos. All that stuff. Depression. Bleak-dark-sit-in-a-hole-no-way-out-stuff.
I’d done a whole load of stuff…. to face my fears. Get more confident. I learned how to fell trees, use a chainsaw, etc.
I got a bit better. But it wasn’t until two weeks ago, I had had ENOUGH. Panic attacks every day.
Fuck this shit. I decided to face it head on. I wasn’t going to leave my house till it was fucking sorted. So that’s what I did. Every night. I’d face the worst of the fear. Look it straight in the eye. Stop running.
I’ve made massive progress. I can sleep.
And now I can sleep. And I’m not shitting myself every 5 minutes. I can start to build my life back.
I’m going to write these points on my wall.
Thanks
ReplyHey Chris. I was stuck in a dark place and feeling sorry for myself about what could have been, should have been, would have been and all that useless bullshit. Your part about if life hadn’t worked out exactly the way it had, you wouldn’t have the beautiful children that you have now…was my medicine. It made me sit back and think about what I have right now. Is it perfect? No. That is an impossible notion. Is it excellent? It sure as fuck is. For some reason, when I read those words, my scalp got all tingly like I just took a bong rip. Peace Brother, I’m just starting with your stuff now, but it’s timeless.
ReplyHi Chris,
I stumbled across this post when I googled “how to be totally fucking awesome” I really liked what you wrote and how you wrote it 🙂 When my own awesomeness-based website is ready to go live I hope I can invite you to write a guest post or some other contribution. That would be cool 🙂 Yeah, and get this shit – tomorrow I’m going to run my very first competitive running race just because I thought running would be awesome to do. I trained and now I can run, which is something I could never ever do before, even when I was a kid. It wasn’t easy, but now I just feel like I fucking own. I look in the mirror and say to myself, “holy shit, I can’t believe I look like that!” I just signed up to roller derby too. I’m 41. It took a long time for my awesomeness to grow in, but cos shit went sideways so many times, it taught me how to use that bad stuff to make my life amazing. I believe that awesomeness can be compounded (like bank interest). It’s the result of doing little incremental things on a daily basis, and not just doing them, but stopping to think about them (staying in the moment). With each success, your confidence grows and you can build on that until your Awesomeness Account sees you doing shit you never believed possible. The Aussie hip hop band Bliss n Eso has had a really big influence on my life. Their lyrics are nothing but positive and empowering. I will share the shit out of your blog. Rock on.
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very cool. Thanks for sharing your thoughts / expereince, Jen (=
ReplyThis is great stuff. I needed to read this right now at this moment.
Replywow, for a longer minute i felt as if i was reading my auto biography, but i already know that story…Chris! wow, you know how to write sir. Honestly not sure how i came to your blog, but from now on, im in sir. Past 15 years i lived so desctructive that well it’s sad, i was sad, shit i was pathetic damn…Reading your article i laughed, cried, becamed angry, and than felt great again and smiled, true. Not many writers out there can connect with a reader in such a short time, well given the past i had i would of said ” yeah ok wtf is this guy talking about, next”, but now that im not a douche bag, and all my feelings, emotions, my existance is not being poisoned by massive amounts of big pharma, drugs, alcohol and of course sex. I enjoy listening to people, i respect others point of view, getting to know people, it’s like i have feelings again. A song on the radio a memory, i mean feelings that died inside of me…Im sorry im blabbing, just wanted to say i found your article to be a great help, and i will be actually using a lot of it, even reading everything you wrote is so sad, yet you put in a spin on it to keep it interesting, funny when it gets to sad, but its true, life….Not sure how i found you but if you dont mind i will stay and see what else is here 🙂 best to you and to those who make it possible, thank you.
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Hey, Pete, thanks for your kind words man. Seriously, they mean a lot. I’m glad it resonated with you!
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