How to Create Content That Inspires, Changes Lives, and Keeps ‘Em Coming Back for More…
The problem is, very few people are successful at it. Fortunately, it doesn’t need to be this way.
If you’ve been trying to build a following online who loves and shares your content, but it’s just not going as well as you’d like to, there’s a good reason for this.
The majority of the information out there on how to do this is completely misleading.
There’s seemingly no end to the number of “gurus” who will tell you that you just need to write regular blog posts, do guest posts and list posts, write catchy subject lines that are optimized for the search engines, build an email list using opt-in boxes and pop-ups, and share your content on Facebook and Twitter.
And while this is all great stuff, it’s simply not enough these days.
This post is different…
It is NOT about how to Continue reading
There’s a list things that crave your worry. Don’t give it to them.
There are things that beg for your control. Keep your control to yourself.
There are 10,000 days ahead of you—maybe more, maybe less—each with something for you to think about. Do not think much of these days and the things in them.
Break Free from the Prison of Trying to Live 10,000 Days in One
Keep your focus right here.
The stress, frustration, and doom on the horizon can only exist when you leave today and try to live in the Great Then and There.
Be tenacious in staying in this day and this day only. Those other days hold nothing for you right now. And who knows, you may never even get around to seeing ’em. You might die before you do. Don’t die without having lived today.
When you Continue reading
We’re going DEEP today…
If you want more success in life—whatever that may mean to you—but you just feel like the chips are stacked against you right now, then you’re definitely gonna wanna read this…
…Especially if you’re not one of “them”—the ones who seem to get everything right.
They make it all look so damn easy, don’t they?
It’s like somehow they’ve got it all figured out.
And more often than not, it seems like you don’t even have a clue. Well maybe you do, and if so, would you please let me know?—cuz I sure don’t.
They’re like super-humans or something. At least they appear to be.
They say just the right things at just the right times.
They solve problems with certainty, grace, and style.
They’re good at, like…well, fucking just about everything.
They’re in amazing shape, make great money, and hop out of bed each morning at 4:15am sharp with stunning hair, a winning smile, and that “can-do” swagger. By 4:20am they’re ready to take on the world with an undying confidence that shines through in everything they do.
You probably see theirContinue reading
Are there goals you wanna achieve but are having trouble staying motivated enough to do the things that need to be done to reach those goals?
Maybe it’s time for an entirely new approach…
Today I drove up to L.A.
For some strange reason, because of my blogs, I’ve been getting approached by different production companies about the possibility of doing a TV show. Each time I’m honored and humbled…and politely decline.
I’m just a writer, ya know?
So I talked the first two production companies out of it by saying that I don’t think TV is for me, and then referred them to someone I felt was a better fit for what they were looking to do.
But it was a different story with the 3rd company that contacted me…
Not so much because the company is responsible for many of the biggest shows on television, but more becauseContinue reading
Your own mind is out to get you. It’s constantly throwing sucker-punches at you, harassing you, and just downright fucking with you.
Comforting ain’t it?
Whatever you do don’t believe its stories of doom and gloom, its endless shenanigans trying to distract you from your path, and its constant doubts about just how awesome you truly are.
Don’t get caught up in the never-ending comparisons of how you’re better than this guy over here, but not as good as that dude over there.
Don’t listen to the self-criticism and incessant mental fuckery no matter how loud they’re screaming at ya.
But don’t tell yourself that you’re wise either, when there is still so much to learn. Life has a way of showing you just how little you know.
Don’t get suckered into the Continue reading
Man was not meant to waste away in a cubicle, or on a couch in front of a box.
We were not meant to worship people on movie screens, in magazines, those who have it all, or anyone at all.
We were not meant to dwell on the thoughts of others who themselves are dwelling on the thoughts of others, seeking validation from those who seek validation.
We were not meant to quietly tiptoe around on the surface, safe from the judgments of others, careful not to be ridiculed or rejected, cautiously avoiding failure at all costs.
We were not meant to worry about the things that simply do not matter, or even the things that matter the most.
We were not meant to worry at all.
We were not meant to buy into the fables in our head that tell us that we can’t, we shouldn’t, and we better not… or else.
Or else fucking what?
Or else we might Continue reading
What’s one thing you can change in your life today that will set you on a path to a more badass and fulfilling existence?
There may be a whole bunch of things you wanna change… but what’s the one thing that will have the biggest impact that you can change now?
What’s the one thing that will make it easier to change some of the other things?
For example, if you’d like to save more money, but have a gnarly heroin addiction, then you might wanna address the heroin thing first, since it will make saving money a whole lot easier. Active heroin addicts are known for their bad spending habits and poor money management skills. And I ain’t just making this shit up—it’s fucking science!
Kicking a heavy opioid and benzo addiction is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do in my life. And when I quit, I had to change how I did just about everything… literally everything. But when you’re fresh off drugs that kill pain and anxiety, EVERYTHING hurts and everything is scary; even just making a piece of toast can be an adventure inContinue reading
I’ll just come right out and say it. I’ve been leading a double life.
One is the life of Chris…
It’s a life of goals, dreams, drama, money, position, status, comparison, possessions, people, appearance, to-do lists, accomplishments, paychecks, bills, taxes, lawyers, heartaches, conquests, let-downs, judgments, expectations, handshakes, stress, smiles, frills, frowns, flaws, fun and the occasional flat tire…
It’s a life of more… more more more and gimme some fucking more.
Better than you. Worse than you. What you have. What I don’t. What I want and how I’m gonna get it.
It’s a life both wonderful and tragic.
There are times in this life when everything just seems to go my way without even the slightest bit of effort… where everything is mine for the taking and the taking is EASY.
Ahhh… gotta love the good times.
HOWEVER… Continue reading
Discover the Place Where Problems Go to Die…
You have problems. A lot of them. And if you don’t right now, you will soon.
That’s life. One damn problem after another.
They’re built into the mechanism.
Life’s default setting is chaos, disorder, and problems.
And it’s all by design.
But there’s beauty in the problems. There are gifts in there if you just look.
Your problems help you learn.
They help you grow.
They can help you evolve through your fears.
They give you a chance turn to something greater. And to turn into something greater.
And they can help you to discover the one place where problems don’t exist.
Right Continue reading
Here’s 79 reasons you definitely don’t wanna workout today…
1. Your dog ate your gym shoes
2. You don’t get good cell reception at the gym
3. American Idol, Honey Boo Boo, those Duck guys or some other lame show is on
4. You’re waiting for your workout partner. He hasn’t been returning your calls though—since 2010
5. You like the whole concept of weakness
6. You can’t find any cool workout outfits that fit you right
7. You like getting injured bending over picking up groceries
8. You’re visualizing your ideal body and the Law of Attraction is doing all the work for you
9. Workout? Sheeeet… I just pack my glock nigga!
10. Your headphones broke and you can’t stand the shitty music they play at the gym
11. You don’t wanna do steroids… all those guys who workout do steroids
12. You wanna do steroids… you just don’t Continue reading
Every moment is a brand new chance to reinvent yourself.
To redefine who you are.
Right now, you get a do-over. And you can do it over anyway you want to.
Our do-over button comes factory installed. And it’s always available to us. Especially when life isn’t going our way.
We can drop the things, thoughts, attitudes, people and beliefs that don’t serve our purpose.
We can change the rules of the game, or even the fucking game itself.
We can change the direction we’re headed, the people we walk with, and the tunes we jam along the way. (Gotta have some good tunes)
We can see life—and everything in it—from an entirely new angle. One full of possibilities.
Where before we only saw a wall, now we can see for miles.
If there’s something we wanna change all we need to do is take new actions… even if they scare us… even if they hurt.
That fear and pain is the kiln through which we’re forged into something greater.
Willingness to Continue reading
My heart raced. I could feel my chest tighten, my muscles tense up, and nerves vibrate throughout my entire body like an engine running on overdrive.
I had a huge list of shit to do sitting just to my left. Some of it I wanted to do. Some of it was nothing more than a pain in the ass but it had to get done. And some it was stuff that I needed to knock out to reach my goals.
I couldn’t wait to get it all done so I could just hit those fucking goals. Every obstacle that got between me and the goals agitated the shit outta me. And there were a lot of obstacles.
The urge to get to the other side of the to-dos was overwhelming.
I felt like I was racing against the clock. A clock that always seemed to be winning.
I envied my friends who were blessed with Type B personalities. I bet they wouldn’t understand the obsessive compulsive madness that consumed me. The undying need to get things done that always seemed to get the best of me. The low-grade panic attacks I brought to each task.
The need to accomplish. To get shit done. To get to the greener grass on the other side. To control.
After all, IContinue reading
Don’t give in to the minutiae of the day that tries to distract you from what matters so it can steal away your dreams.
Don’t give in and let thoughts of what could be tomorrow—or next year—deprive you of what is right now. Fight for a better tomorrow. But live in today.
Don’t give in to thoughts about how you can’t, aren’t good enough, or don’t have enough.
Don’t give in to the idea that you need to be more than you already are.
Don’t give in to the illusion that there’s something or someone out there, over there, or just beyond that can fix it all and make you happy.
Don’t give in to Continue reading
This past few days I’ve been sick as a junk yard dog with rabies. Fortunately it’s just a bad case of the flu.
I haven’t been up to doing my normal stuff… training, working, writing, the uge.
I think lately I’ve just been a little too go go go without taking any breaks. So my body stepped up to the plate and forced me to go on a little couch vacation.
But even in the florescent neon-yellow nuclear-looking mucus that’s colonizing in my nasal passages there is good to be found.
I’ve been able to Continue reading
Unless you’ve been floating around in a cozy little bubble somewhere south of reality, your life is most likely completely fucking crazy…
… Dealing with difficult people, unwanted dramas unfolding, conflicts to resolve, shortcomings to make up for, challenges to overcome, problems to solve, and more shit to do than you have time to do it in.
Not to mention the fact that the entire world itself seems to be out of its planetary mind.
Let’s face it: life can be fucking hard—full of chaos, struggle, and uncertainty.
Here’s some things to keep you mentally cool, no matter how insane your life or the world around you may be…Continue reading
Fuck the Law of Attraction… Well, sort of.
I’m a firm believer that you get what you focus on.
I’ve seen plenty of proof in my own life, attracting both situations and things I wanted, as well as ones I didn’t want, largely through the power of thought. But rarely completely by the power of thought.
I also believe that…
The Law of Attraction—popularized by the movie “The Secret”—has caused a great deal of people to dogmatically expect something for nothing.
I’ll use the example of an old friend of mine we’ll call Dane back from my days as a personal trainer. Dane was smart, fit, good looking, charismatic, and well liked.
Back in 2003 Dane had fell on Continue reading
Here’s 39 strange things about this paradoxical thing called life.
1. Our best solutions, creations, insights, and moments of genius rarely come from our minds. In fact, they don’t actually come from us at all. They come through us.
2. We live in the one place our minds seem to have the damndest time finding—the Here and Now. We spend the majority of our lives constantly consumed with our perception of the past and anticipating—in either a positive or negative way—an imaginary future.
3. More often than not the best things in life happen when our well-designed plans fall apart. But it’s still good to make plans.
4. The more we try to be liked and admired by others, the less they tend to like and admire us.
5. We search for anything and everything to make us a happy…be it money, a house, a car, a person, a job, a business, retirement, recognition, or a new pair of shoes…yet we rarely look to the one place it can actually be found—inside.
6. Trying to do Continue reading
Being a blogger, I’ve dealt with my share of critics—it comes with the job description.
But this was the first time I was aware of being the target of so much slamming, by so many people, all at once.
I felt the sting for about a minute and fifty-seven seconds, quickly remembered that having these haters is actually a good thing, made a mental note to get a blog post out of it, and went about my day.
“To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
There will always be Continue reading
Right now there’s a guy doing life in prison who’s more free and happy than every single person you ran into today, including you, me, and the dude who’s got it all.
Right now there’s a woman with no arms and no legs enjoying her life far beyond what you or I can even fathom.
Right now there’s a homeless guy who appreciates his urine-stained piece of sidewalk more than any billionaire in the world appreciates his mansion on the hill.
Right now there’s woman who was sexually abused her entire childhood who’s making a more positive impact on people’s lives than any best-selling self-help guru who’s ever promised you that you can “have it all.”
Right now there are little children playing hide-and-go-seek in a war zone with bullets flying over their heads who are more optimistic about their future than any one of the success-driven Americans repeating feel-good affirmations of personal prosperity while staring at vision boards covered with images of perfect bodies, dream homes and private jets.
Right now there’s a guy so miserable with his Barbie-doll wife that he’s trying to find some thug he can pay toContinue reading
This post is about creating the future you burn for. It’s about living from your heart, instead of just tiptoeing along with the status quo.
Personal evolution is a funny thing. Like…
Road Rage and the Jesus Fish Guy
Today I saw a woman with a big “Om” sign and a Namaste sticker on her car brazenly cut someone off with the vehicular swagger of a coked-out outlaw being chased by the cops.
It was even more impressive than the time the guy with a giant Jesus fish on his truck assaulted me with the middle finger of hate for doing 35 mph in a 35 mph zone. I wonder if he ever forgave me for safely driving the recommended speed limit.
I recently heard the reason people go so crazy in their cars is thatContinue reading