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thanks tina
sure you could, you probably just don’t have as bad of OCD as I do and like to stay up til three in the morning writing this shit (=
ReplyEverything you’ve said is so right, I do what I want and People hate me for me it, and I love it hahahaha
ReplyI fuckin love all your post man. Writing this down to remind me what is really important! Thanks man
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thanks Joshua, I’m a big fan of writing stuff down myself. What’s that saying?
The dullest pencil is better than the sharpest memory… so true
And seeing as I smoked most of my memory up in the 80’s and 90’s… I write a TON of shit down (=
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thank you Daniel
looks like you’re doing some good things yourself my man
ReplyI loooove this post. Truer words have never been spoken. Another amazing post. You really do have a way of inspiring people, you should be proud of the work you are doing and SCREW THE HATERS, they are just trying to drink your awesome sauce
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ha ha
awesome sauce
that term always makes me laugh
Appreciate your heartfelt comment as always Moni
ReplyNailed it…again Chris.
Love the energy, the truth… and the fact you got a Vernon Howard quote in here. Well, hell…what the chances!
Evidently, pretty fucking 100%.
Rock on!
Shawn

ha ha
thanks Shawn, you’ve been an inspiration of mine for along time brother
great talking with you earlier
ReplyGreat piece as per usual. You’ve inspired me to start my own blog. Love what you have to say. Have a great weekend.
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AWESOME
check out The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield
And The Impact Equation by Smith and Brogan
Oh … and check out Ramsay’s stuff as well http://www.blogtyrant.com/
all stuff that will help with your blogging journey
ReplyI LOVE your writing style. I like that it sounds very natural and off the cuff, but that’s just because you make it look easy. I’m sure it’s not.
It’s rad that your so open and help people with information to do their own blogging thing. That shows true confidence. Those trash talkers do not.
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hey thanks Heather
it’s funny, sometimes the writing flows, and others not so much
I find the best flow from about 10pm to 12 or 1am
Not much of a flow in the morning though, ha ha
ReplyForget the black flag ink…. Should get “what the fuck am I all about?” Inked on my arms.
Thanks for the post bud.
Just also wanted to let u know this blog kicked my butt in gear. Signed up to the Scott Dinsmores course because of it – via ur link of course.
Hustling one day at a time. Keep you posted.
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I’ve pretty much read every post on here now (I think) and find your words resonate and express what my mind thinks with examples from a lot of the same heroes* as me.
Keep em coming sir
Cheers
* Not the metal ones…don’t get that genre at all 🙂

hey thanks Martin
glad you’re enjoying the posts man
And gotta spread them heroes around ya know
ReplyTR nailed it in his critic speech:
http://www.theodore-roosevelt.com/trsorbonnespeech.html
Great post, great ideas
Thanks
–amb

The late Dale Earnhart was once asked by a reporter if he was upset by all the people who booed him. He replied I only get concerned when they are quiet. I always remember this exchange when my haters get loud. Thanks for the post. I’m not sure how I found your blog but I’m damn sure glad I did!
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Spot on brother! Recent subscriber from a lot of the same fabric. Firing on all 8 cylinders this a.m. Thx
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hi Chris, today I found out someone really close to me doesn’t really like me much…I kind of floundered for about a minute…then this voice piped up and said “who gives a fuck someone doesn’t like you, move on” and I did, usually I cave in..but lately something has clicked and I am not taking OP’s stuff to heart. Thanykou for your link the other day to your 37 tips, it has really helped me to pick myself up, dust myself off and move on. Mel:-)
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You are such a badass! I read your blogs religiously and I love them! I read and reread them; I forward them on to friends who need to read them. I just wanted you to know. Thank you for all that you do.
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Ann-Marie
this just put the biggest smile on my face (=
Thanks for your comment and thanks sooooo much for sharing
ReplyYour articles are really great,, thanks a lot! I liked the cup of piss metaphore, I’m definitely going to reuse it.
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‘Bro, just trying to add some “why” to my fandom. My daughter is overweight and is a great athlete in spite of it. She has worked through and continues to work through her isms, her insecurities, her difficult unto wrenching relationship with her mom, my ex. She recently developed alopecia but, as true to her growing strength, she shows less and less shame about what she “has” and far less shame about who she is.
I shared the Katt Williams piece with her this morning before she went out to summer school. It brought a belly laugh to us both. It lightened her load. I think, pray God, that she’ll read this whole post when she gets back.
You Da’ Mutha#()&ng MAN!!
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AJ that is so fucking cool man
sounds like you’re doing a great job with her man
I can tell you love her with every cell of your being brother
she’s lucky to have you – and you’re lucky to have her
Reply“There are two ways of exerting one’s strength: one is pushing down, the other is pulling up.”
Booker T. Washington
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Va that is a GREAT quote
thank you for sharing
brilliant
so true
ReplyThank you for writing this. It’s so true and hits so close to home right now. Thank you for reminding me there’s a much better way to deal with criticism. Smile and move forward.
Keep on rocking man!

“Hater gonna hate. Let them do their mutha fuckin job.”
Keep the great posts coming and keep keepin it real.
I’m off to find some more haters!
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Great post Chris!!! You are a true inspiration for many people. #hatersaremymotivation
Mardy
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Awesome stuff Big Chris! Always get a smile on my face when I read your words bro! I’m a big fan of the ZERO censorship thing too… I’ll launch my blog soon and I only hope to write with such no bullshit honesty as you man.
many thanks,
Steve.

hey right on Steve
I just shared this with someone else
since you’re gonna start blogging
check out
The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield
The Impact Equation by Smith and Brogan
And check out Ramsay’s stuff as well http://www.blogtyrant.com/
all stuff that will help with your blogging journey
ReplySaw a T-shirt just yesterday – “Haters Gonna Hate” along with a Scripture reference to Proverbs 9, verse 8. If you go back and read that excerpt, you can see that people been hatin’ for a really long time, and will continue to hate for a really long time past just today or tomorrow! 🙂 If you’re doin’ good stuff, you just gotta keep doin’ it. Like you say, Chris, gotta Rise Above!! >Blessings!<
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thanks Megan
Yeah, I bet people been hating since the very beginning
ReplyI have been hooked on your blog since I discovered it. I’ve been trying to do the whole personal development thing for a few years, reading Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, watching the secret, reading more self help gurus. One thing I found is that most of it bored the shit out of me. I must have 15 books on my shelf that I started reading, and just never made it to the end. Your blog kinda gives me the same type stuff as I get from those sources, only written in the type of language I can relate to. It feels more like I’m talking to my friends instead of being lectured by some pseudo-intellectual know-it-all. (not that I’m hating on them, I love the content, just have a hard time staying focused).
That being said, I would be REALLY curious to see what you found on that forum trashing you. I love haters. It’s like going to the zoo. You read internet haters (youtube comments are great for this) and it makes you laugh. Kinda like studying what NOT to be like. But, I couldn’t hate on this blog even if I tried. Keep up the great work.
ReplyChris,
Hey my name is Jonathan Bennett, I’m an actor living in Hollywood.
My dad was diagnosed with brain cancer about two weeks ago and I didn’t know what to do. YOUR blog has changed my life. Being an actor in LA you sometimes get sucked into the wrath of Hollywood. But your blog makes it all so simple! I want to start a revolution. We need to start a revolution. Please read my tweet, it’ll explain everything.
http://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1rlikv4
You are making a difference. Don’t stop. What you do MATTERS.

Hey thanks Man
Dig your post/tweet
and thanks for your email Jonathan
I showed your IMBD pic to my fiance and she’s like “hey he was the guy in Mean Girls!”
you come from a crazy world my brother, the fame/Hollywood thing
LOVE how you addressed it in what you wrote
The stuff about your dad got to me man — love that it’s making you stronger
I responded to your email BTW
thanks again so much for your positive words
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hey thanks Blake
basically a few things I remember were
I use too many commas
too many errors
I misquoted someone
One guy’s like “I stopped reading when I got to the word ‘cuz”
that my fictional stories were about the 15 people with shitty lives I wrote were lame and pretentious
that I shouldn’t have put a pic of Bukowski in there because he was miserable
that I shouldn’t have used the pic of the little African kids
that I don’t know what the fuck Im talking about
that i shouldn’t push my own stuff in social media
those are what i remember
it could have been much worse, all this just reminded me I’m on the right path and to keep doing my thing, no matter how many commas I use.
after about 2 minutes I actually gotta nice rush from it.
and I hear ya about self-help books being boring
if you haven’t checked it out yet, listen to the joe rogan experience podcast
similar to the stuff I blog about – with lots of humor
ReplyChris,I’ve only checked out your blog a little more than a month ago. This post by far really rocked me down to my core and I thank you for writing it.For the most part, I thought a hater was nothing but a negative motherfucker who had nothing better to do than run their mouths,I never thought of the hidden positive energy they possess for us. Keep up the good work.
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I’ve been reading your stuff for a while and really love it. I work in the corporate world and they’re always suggesting stuff and it’s ok, but NOTHING speaks to me like you do. I’m sharing this one with people there to show them THIS is what people like me really think.
After reading this, I jumped in the shower and was ready to take them all on. Thanks for that man.
Mike

Mike that is so awesome
Appreciate you sharing man
take em on brother
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Love this. Totally agree w/the anti-hater & judgement message, and came to the punk rock lesson myself and it was reinforced after reading the Johnny Ramone bio–punk rock is being genuine, being who you are and not giving a fuck about what anybody else thinks. It’s not about anti-this or that, and it’s not about hating yourself. I found this post because a good friend shared it & I can’t wait to read more. Thanks!
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hey thanks Mari
I’ll have to check out Johnny’s book sometime
I love autobiographies
ReplyYou need to put this all in a book. I’ve been printing certain ones out to keep handy and re-read when/where I want but a book would be even more awesome.
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Hey Drew, thanks for sharing man
actually I didn’t know the stuff about Mother Teresa
Just looked it up on Wikipedia
I need to look into further
funny, this was the first I heard about anything like that
I’ve always heard nothing but good things
Either way, I appreciate you input man
ReplyDude, show some respect. Mother Teresa didn’t win the Nobel Prize for nothing. She had been selflessly serving the poor and needy throughout her life.
ReplyI have to laugh when I see people taking time out to actively criticize others ! I cannot find time in the day to do all the awesome and productive things in one day / one life ….I honestly feel nothing but pity for the people that spend their time lookin for things to critisize when it’s so fucking rediculous to elect this option over simply : not reading it, not booking that hotel , closing the book or taking a different main course next time . the day I have time to bash other people for a living : kill me cause I already dead !
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ha ha
yeah Carian, hard to find time to bash when you’re doing a bunch of awesome shit
Replyand P.S. what the hell could anyone hate about your message ? they’re honest and they are rad. if you don’t understand then you don’t speak Badass 🙂
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Great post. Inspires me to be the best I can be. Keep up the awesome writing Chris!!!!!!!!!!!
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Haters have mirror vision, they see their desired reflection in the actions of achievers.
As an addict in the first couple months of recovery, your articles inspire me to stay sober, to keep striving for a better life. I wonder if a lot of people with addictive tendencies have the potential for greatness?
Anyways, have a powerful day, stay true, stay you. 🙂
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hey thanks Ed
do great things with your position brother
people need it
ReplyI always say, ” Talk shit about me all you want it just makes me more famous” :->
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And just another example of why I always open your emails. Great post as usual. Growing up in the 80’s, I never fit into any clique and took crap for it every day of my life. I was miserable. Now I look at those people who made my life hell and I see misery and suffering while I run my own successful mind body fitness company. I think that their hatred actually made me stronger as I had to learn to disregard name calling and hurtful taunts. I had to find who I really was and build him up. Become an oak and not a weeping willow.
Thank you for spending your precious time sharing your thoughts and stories with all of us. You will probably never know just how much your words are impacting people, but know that all of that effort will return to you ten fold.

Chris, this was one of your best so far. Man, I gotta say, you’re pretty freakin’ good, quite honestly. Those guys must really have nothing important to do because there are sooo many other people that are worthy of being slammed if that’s what we’re going to do with our time. I’ve followed you for a few years now and I can be pretty critical myself. Your material is good and your writing style is perfectly fine; it takes unique talents to make the world go around. If I had even half the followers you do, I’d be pretty darn happy with that… Keep up the great work. Superb quotes, btw! Givin’ you a shout out on FB today.
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hey thanks a ton Jerry, super cool of you to say
and thanks for the shout out man
keep doing your thing brother
ReplyThanks for this Chris,
I’ve found myself a hater who is insulting people who leave reviews for my books. It got me down, really down, but now I realize that it takes a certain amount of “celebrity” to attract a hater, so I’m embracing that person and letting them seethe in their own misery. Plus, their hate has driven plenty of people to my website. Nothing like free marketing, eh?

hey tammie, thanks for sharing
looks like youve got some cool books out there, checked out your site
yeah don’t give those haters any of your attention, just keep on creating (=
ReplyAnother excellent post, Chris? Did you find this somewhat of a therapeutic release after reading what those haters were writing about you on the net?
I was once a hater. It came with my youthful inexperience. I would tear down others to help (so it seemed) to build me up. Even when doing that, it doesn’t work. I did it when I competed in bodybuidling, I did it in my professional career when I started out as a staff trainer for a box gym, and I even would do it when I was casual dating women…to make sure no other man was remotely as attractive, of course 🙂
What a waste of time! It doesn’t work. I needed to become comfortable with myself and realize that “hey…I’m great at what I do….AND…it’s ok if there are others that are as good if not better.” I used to chalk it up to an “age” thing and figured I just grew out of it as I matured. But I still see guys (and girls) my age and older that are still living life as a “hater.”
It’s a nice world when you are living on the “lover” side.
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you got it James, so true
yeah man, very therapeutic
All my blog posts are actually
Writing is one was I process things, release the unwanted, embrace the important and so on
thx james, always appreciate your comments man
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great post! i find it hard to believe there is an entire site of people bashing you and your writing. imagine how much time and energy they dedicated to something and someone they can’t stand! *shakes head* i will never understand why people do that. if you don’t like it, don’t look at it.
love that you referenced black flag and rollins. i love people that don’t give a shit and just do what makes them happy. henry is a genius and 90% of my favorite and profound quotes have come from him. looking forward to your next post!
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Hey thanks Sara
yeah, Rollins is the man.
Love his spoken word stuff
he’s been a huge influence on me and my writing
his stuff actually helped me through some super dark times in my 20’s
ReplyMore truth Chris, i think your writing is getting better and better all the time. Love the bill hicks clip!!! Thats how to deal with haters!!! You still working on a book?
J

thanks Jamie, yeah I love that hicks clip, so funny… Bill was GREAT, such a brilliant comedian that we lost as such a young age
and yep, working away on the book
ReplyGreat post and insights.
I remember about 5 years ago when I launched my first website (an options-oriented value investing site) that someone on the Yahoo message boards posted a link to it and called it something like the worst new options site of the month.
5 years later, the site is not only still around, but it’s now my primary source of income.
I used to be on the other side of the equation – the cynical, bitter, and critical side. I looked at success with suspicion and even contempt.
But when I actually took some risks and tried building something myself, it was amazing how quickly all that began to drop away.
Since then, I’ve found it so much more energizing to highlight and spend time experiencing the things that I think are truly awesome than to deplete my energizing bitching about the things I don’t connect with.
The negative instinct is still there, of course, but when I come across something that I think is truly ridiculous that others seem to enjoy, instead of drafting a 5000 word diatribe in my head about why that thing represents the demise of western civilization, I try to “walk away” and instead think about Shakespeare or Jimi Hendrix or Babe Ruth.
Loved the Fulton Sheen quote, btw – it definitely hit home.
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hey thanks for sharing brad
you’re a true success story
that’s so awesome about your site now being a big source of income for you
gotta love it
And Shakespeare, Jimi Hendrix, Babe Ruth.
Can’t go wrong there
Replyhey Big Chris… i gotta say i respectfully disagree, … but only about 25-30 %, and mostly just in my case. Let me explain. im by far one of the most stubborn, hard headed dudes i know, but i also bust my ass working towards my goals more than most people i know. So over the years I’ve had a tendency to lump all criticism that came my way as bullshit coming from people who either dont give a shit about me or dont know shit about me, and, i was right.. sometimes. But in hindsight i wish i would have listened less to some voices and alot more to others. SOMETIMES some people really mean well and we need to take the feedback and not always lump them in with the knuckleheads we need to ignore. So having said all that, I think we all needed this post as a reminder to stay strong and im certainly a life long reader of your stuff, and personally i think your writing style is AWESOME!
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hey thanks Jeff
yeah I know what you’re talking about man
usually that kind of input comes from a place of love instead of bitterness
there’s a lot of that kind of feedback I would have been better off listening to myself for sure
thanks for chiming in Jeff
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Hey right on Lea
the posts are here for ya anytime you need em’
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ReplyThanks for this a bunch. I’ve been writing stuff down for over 30 years, and it helps a lot. What you wrote here really sinks in for me since I’ve battled all my like with being a critical nasty-ass. Thanks for putting so well.
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Hey thanks John
and yeah man, for me writing it key
I feel so “off” when I don’t do it
what a blessing it has been to have this channel in my life
Write, Train, Meditate, Surrender
those things are HUGE for me
ReplyFinally I found a blog that is down to earth and directly relates to who I am. Spent almost my whole life absorbing hatred , hating and every sense of the word for being “different” for following my heart. I still had my head in the sand most of the time because that little ego always wants to tell you “you cant” “you wont” “your a loser” blah blah blah is all it is. I feel that taming the ego, helps me immensely. Everyday I take 2 walks, both walks are about 20 minutes long in the beautiful forests of Germany. Right now I’m laid off with severance pay and leave pay coming my way due to closure of Heidelberg Army Base. Before I made it to Germany 5 and a half years ago I was homeless 30 pounds underweight living in my car. On top of that lost my house to the government which the bank owns now. Lost my family and lost real clout and respect. It makes you wonder if it’s just karmic or just shit happens but everything happens for a reason.I have always had an angel over my shoulder directing me. Cant say I had much guidance and I have loads of baggage but who doesn’t have baggage. At age 30 I started to shape up, and although I have no career path (just working in kitchens and training Brazilian Jiu-jitsu for 17 years now) I always seem to have common sense and logic to guide me. Jiu-jitsu helps me a great deal, martial arts is an effective way to combat issues. Haters hated but I never let them break me. Sure it bothered me but I just kept truckin. Now I have a wonderful German wife with a wonderful family and they helped me get back on my feet and love me as they’re own! I did use a little secret to help me but practically like your other blog speaks of in that respect. I found my fathers biography online about his life in Hollywood and I must have broke down for days (he deceased 10 years ago) He now has a big effect on me than he ever did ! Now I understand who he was and it’s a reflection of I!!! I’m 39 years old and will be receiving my black-belt in jiujitsu and attending acting/theater/film school to involve myself in show business. Not to be a celebrity but have another form of self expression as therapy and of course to entertain and have a good influence on society if I do make it. But most of all its really always what I wanted to do. Guess what THERE ARE SOME HATERS! Now I smile and say “all your doing is fuelling my desire to achieve what I want 🙂 “I do have supporters, my wife and best friend and thats truly all that matters. I know this was lengthy but I needed to let that out and sometimes on a stranger it just feels better. THANK YOU BRO!!!!! Hope to meet you one day man. Johnny Rogers
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Hey shit Johnny this is awesome man
thanks so much for sharing
and congrats on transforming your life
that’s the real deal right there
keep killing out in Germany man
I appreciate you
ReplyAlways remember Chris, “the dogs keep barking but the caravan keeps moving along”.
Excellent article brother!
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Damn! I discovered your site yesterday and I love it! I can’t quit reading it!
Everything you write resonates with my life!
I grew up with a hating dad. He hated on everything that I liked. If I had an interest outside of his he constantly criticized it. If I had a dream or an ambition, he would immediately begin tearing it down. He criticized me from the way I looked, to the way I laughed and everything in between.
Then, I married a woman who became the same way! She criticized how much money I made (even though I have a very good job and worked my ass off), our home, our luck, and I even over heard her making fun of me to her friends.
During the whole marriage I was nothing but grateful for everything I had.
All of this has left me feeling a bit defeated. I am trying to get the strength to make the right changes for me. Needless to say, the course of my life has depressed me a bit. But, I’m digging deep for the real me. I am trying to rediscover the dreams I had as a youth that my family so delightfully crushed. I’m hoping it’s never too late.
Thank you so much for the encouragement!
I was using StumbleUpon and upon stumbling random websites I may be interested in, it lead me to your blog. I read two of your blogs and they’re absolutely beautiful and highly motivating. I’m honestly going to start coming back to your website more often, because I don’t have self-motivation and the two posts I read on your site has helped me realize a lot in life to have self-motivation. Thank you, sir. You write some beautiful stuff and it’s on point. Keep up the good work. 🙂 Also, I am subscribing to your newsletter VIA email. I liked what I seen, hands down, bro.
ReplyHey Chris, i like to read your old postings as a reminder to myself. Today I came across this one you talk about haters. I would just add that the haters are the fuel to our greatness. The more the hate us, the stronger we get. Just keep moving forward, right?
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I just discovered your blog and this post is exactly what I needed to hear! Actually I been working on not caring what people think.. I’m better than what I use to be but I still got some ways to go. Usually when someone wanna criticize me and say I need to change I simple say “get over it”. That way I did 2 things.. I shut them down and I didn’t waste my time arguing with them!
ReplyI just found your blog on Stumbleupon and I have to say kudos to you. Everything I read gives me strength and inspiration. It’s like you know me and my path and are speaking to me directly. Thank you for your passion it’s helping me find mine. Please keep up the amazing work.
ReplyI love reading your posts.
They are very inspiring.
Right now, I’m finding more courage to start something and this is one thing I need- motivation.
I don’t want to be stopped by my fear of what others might think of me.
I’ll take risk .
so I go to a school where the majority of students are quite the bit of judgers, so I began to dress like a complete train wreck. ripped clothes, leather jackets, straightened yet messy hair, and I flirted with all the homophobic staff members. I kinda became this walking symbol of teenage rebellion. im ALWAYS getting crap for it but Ive helped the few outcasts in my school to come out a bit. no more dark hallway lurking for them I suppose.
ReplyDon’t really know how I came across this post, but I LOVE IT. One of the best posts on haters I ever read. Definitely bookmarking this!
ReplyAs someone who has been both hated and a hater…this post resonates with me and motivates me greatly. Thank you for it.
ReplyWhat an OUTSTANDING BLOG!! This is one of the best blogs I have ever seen. As a recovering alcoholic and a 40something with just about the world’s worst ADHD, I know about getting beat down and getting back up. I love the directness, the amazing book suggestions, and slap on the back “YOU CAN DO IT.” Good stuff man
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