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You made my day today…..American Psych Business Card Scene?….That blog summed it up for me today. I’m 52 years old and JUST coming into the business. We have some parallels in our backgrounds. Lets just say that I’ve been OFF THE RADAR for a while due to some “circumstances that I didn’t realize that I didn’t have control of”…..Anyhooo, My sister IS a PMP like the guys in the video….From the outside looking in her world is perfect. Naturally I’ve caught a lot of static about deciding to go into this business, considering before my “disappearance ” I had a Wall Street career. The point is thank you for your blogs etc. They keep me going. I’ve been able to do so much today because of your words. Continue to keep it raw!!
ReplyYeah – I’ve heard this as “don’t judge your insides against other people’s outsides.” Thanks for connecting with me today! Moving forward….
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thanks for the kinds words Ross
I love love love your comment (=
ReplyMan, you have no idea how much I can relate to this:
“With the exception of my girl, my children, and a few close friends, I don’t like to be around people that much. Sometimes I do…short periods here and there, maybe an hour a day tops, but that’s about it. After that I need at least 23 hours to recuperate.”
It’s good to know that I’m not the only one :).
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right on Karim
took me a long time to accept this fact about myself and not beat myself up for not wanting to go hang out with people all the time
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This is helping me a ton, all your blogs. I’m in a very deep rut myself, trying to deal with both family issues and college. Trying to start a club at and handling everything, plus taking a look at myself from the inside drains my energy. the latter especially helps confuse me, because it’s all changing very rapidly because of other issues. Reading these blogs seem to help piece everything together on the inside, filling in the puzzle pieces and slowly creating the masterpiece i need to see in order to make some life-changing decisions I’m trying to postpone ( though that’s making it even worse ) . These blogs are helping a great deal, keep ’em coming!
Thanks for supplying such enlightening ideas!
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I know all about the ruts brother. Trudge forward, they can lead to someplace great
ReplyBig Chris,
I appreciate and really enjoy your blogs. Great stuff, you are truly a gifted writer in expressing what many people feel.
Keep at it. I plan to hook up with you in 2014 for some coaching.
Stay strong, Fred

Hey Big Chris,
That is one kick ass post!
It is without doubt.. THE most honest and open post I’ve ever read online.. Period..
You talk from the heart – and don’t hold back..
Proud of you fella..
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thanks Dave, sometimes the heart has some shit to say ya know
ReplyAloha Chris,
I enjoy reading your posts.
I like the way you let things out.
Life sucks if that what you choose to be !!
But, I’m learning to shift it!! It works!! You have to remind yourself every single minute that life is now !!! and it can be beautiful !! Don’t let struggles turned your life to BS!! Love, patience , gratitude and faith always everyone deserve it.
Plenty aloha To you Chris!!
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Great post. Thanks-I needed this today! Just know you made someone feel better. Pretty cool.
ReplyDid you happen to reference Howard Stern up there? “…let the poison out…” If so, I love your writing even more than I already did. Great essay.
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didn’t reference stern, but actually thought about him at one point while writing this
thanks for the kind words Lindsey (=
ReplyChris you just nail it every time. I think I relate to your posts because they are so obviously true and honest. You really have a knack for expressing some heavy subjects in clear concise language. I have yet to read a post that didn’t speak directly to me. Keep it up.
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I think you need a hug, and a switch to decaf.
But seriously. Your ADHD blogs really help me put my life into perspective. Thank for sharing!
You’re articles continue to be an inspiration to take life head on and to not be a victim. Can’t thank you enough for all the great reads Big Chris.
ReplyGreat post. Reminds me of the saying “Calm seas never made good sailors.” Or something like that not sure if I quoted it correctly.
One of the best changes I made in my life was deciding to finally do the things that I was putting off. Starting with working out which has helped me lose 10lbs so far, shooting for 200lbs from 240. Also second was finishing a novel which I am slowly closing in on. By the way I did take your recommendation of reading “The war of art” which was very inciteful.
Thanks for the post always look forward to reading the stuff you post.
Hey there, Chris! I’ve been following yor blogs for a while now, and this post tops them all! It’s so raw. Wow. It helped me to get a better perspective on the shit in my own life. Thanks. Keep up the great work!
ReplyYou had my attention with the image from the movie Valhalla. Im in. Nice work, Mr. McCombs. I’ll have what you’re having.
ReplyHey chris,
At first I was wondering where this blog was going. I learnt a lot about how you perceive life and to me, you do seem to have your shit together. I take inspiration in what you say, because it is the first time I have heard someone who I consider to be successful, explain how normal they are. It’s easy to think that successful people have it all together, and I appreciate your lengthy blog post to explain otherwise. Cheers Chris!
Nick
ReplyHey Chris,
Thanks! Great inspirational post! Really connected and shows me a way to be at peace amongst the seeming chaos life often brings. Bring it on! !
Cheers Sir:)
ReplyNot sure if you get many comment from the other side of the Atlantic over here in London but your post was the thing I have read this morning and it was just what I needed.
Smile on,
Dan
Damn you just ninja looted my convo with my bro James Campbell :p. Kidding you perfectly said what a lot of people i’ve been speaking to lately say and you’ve helped them and myself in knowing what it is that’s getting us the way and really to draw inspiration from it.
Thanks again brother i hope you’re well and kicking butt. Much love from the community!
Adil
ReplyChris,
Love this post. I always seem to compare myself with others who seem to have their shit together, until I get to know them and realise they are just as messed up in other areas of life. As you say, if you got a roof over you head and food on the table, it ain’t to bad.
I believe everything in life happens, its going to happen anyway so deal with it and let it make you stronger and better.
rob
ReplyThat’s some real stuff Chris. Been through a ton of that too and you are right it only crafts you into an incredible individual if you don’t let it turn you into a evil nut job! Wouldn’t change anything in my past just want the future to be even better. Great post keep em coming.
ReplyHey chris…..you have no idea how much you’ve been a blessing to me man. I could easily relate to most experiences you’ve had…this blog keeps me going. Every fuckin day i read it i get strength to tackle shit….train hard n just b real. Thanx bro…
ReplyThank you for the raw message Chris. You can tell it comes from the heart when you read and feel every sentence hitting home and a voice echoes inside of you going: “you’re guilty of this too”.
It hurts, but not necessarily in a bad way. It’s sort of like… DOMS, or growing pain if you will.
Thank you.
T
Greatness!!!! I have to share this with somebody I know right now. It’s interesting. I share some of the same “weird insecurities” and I am an introvert in a sales position. It is such a contradiction. It’s almost like being an actor sometimes. Good way to start the day!! Keep Rockin’ on Big Chris!!
ReplyChris,
You are one of the great ones sir. You are making a difference and giving others the courage to embrace their dark sides and use them for a higher purpose. There is so much power in our darkness if we process it completely. This blog was a great read. Cheers bro.
ReplyHey Chris,
As it always is…another good post. The serious deal is you’ve gotten better over time unfortunately having to deal with the typical dramas and the “extra large” ones as well.
Stay strong brother…
Peace.
E
ReplyDamn Chris—You nailed it..I love that you are on the planet…keep it coming and best to you.
Ps…so what about your toe…many people have ugly toes…maybe you could tattoo it? 🙂
Chris,
My simple words are going to fail me as I try to express how impactful reading this was. I have followed you for a good while now, always enjoying and reposting the inspiration you convey. But, this entry struck me to the core. The parallels were strong and real enough that I had to fight back the emotion.
So, thank you. My most sincere and humble gratitude for your bravery in writing this. You made 1 guy feel less alone in this world.
Regards,
Chad
Chris I know just what you are saying. A lot of what you’ve experienced I have as well. 2009 was the year from hell. Now going into 2014 I see a small light at the end of the tunnel and I know it is not a train. Love reading your blogs. You da man in so many ways you don’t know it yourself. Keep up the great work you’re doing and don’t give up. Whenever it seems the worst you’re about to get something out of this world in return for the troubles. Hang in there and have a Merry Christmas and wonderful new year. Speaking of new years I made a new years resolution 8 years ago that is the only one I have ever kept. Wondering what it is?
Keep scrolling.
Keep scrolling!
Never to make another one!
ReplyI always feel like your in my head and writing my words. You have a special place in my heart Brother.!
Thank you for what you do it always gives me a reality check. L&R Quake
Damn man, you’re a version of me thats a foot taller. Thank you for sharing. Dont be afraid to speak from your heart!! Theres a lot of good in there
ReplyHey Chris
I can totally relate. Love your posts. Keep it real mate.
Thanks Brother,
As usual when I read your posts, the right words at the right time.
Chris,
I’m a pastor. I’d trade 50 self-righteous jag-offs in my church, too proud to know themselves, for one of you. Love the honesty. You rock. Keep it up.
Larry
ReplyI think that about sums it up B.C.! thanks for fighting the fight and for keeping it real Bro. Don’t stop.
ReplyBest blog ever, I Iaughed my ass off, and I needed both a good laugh and a smaller ass.
ReplyThank you for writing this. I just got let go from my job this week after months of feeling on top of the world. I felt like Alice in Wonderland falling down the rabbit hole. Your blog helped me put things into perspective and it’s very much appreciated you sharing your trials and tribulations and thoughts on them. It IS really annoying when you see those people who put on this persona of absolute perfection. So thank you and keep doing what you’re doing, dude.
ReplyThey say the reason so many of us are insecure in this time of social media is because we judge our behind-the-scenes against everybody else’s highlight reel.
I got real sick at the beginning of the year and had to plow through one of the hardest experiences of my life – a friend of mine sent me your ‘ways to be a badass’ post and your words really helped me keep shit in perspective at certain points during 2013. I’ve been following since my buddy sent me that first link, and thought you should know you really are doing something good out there. From one writer to another: thank you.
ReplyThan you Big Chris to posting that.
Iam just !ike a humble, I use it like a brake, when challenge not serious.
Main Battle ahead.
Keep Moving!
I know you said you wrote this for you but there is some of me in that post.
Also, even though you say your finances being in a sling it has me curious to want to know how much you make a month. I cant imagine you making less than $100,000 a month with your writing skills. You have to be one of the top online copywriters out there currently.
Lastly, I have an idea…why not just write a script, hire an agent to pitch it to reality shows. You can be like dog the bounty hunter of catching predators!!! Alternatively, maybe start off with a book as a lead in product to get on tv and position yourself as an expert. You know how to research & write a provocative title/book to get you noticed. I dont have to tell you much else. I am sure you know ron douglas because the internet marketing arena is so small. Maybe you can scoop up his pdf publicity secrets, or, look up tactics for free via google/library. Perhaps you already know this I dont know, but, you can do it I think if you wanted to.
Let us know when you on tv on your blog 🙂
P.S. If you can host me out california and mentor me in copywriting/internet marketing i’d appreciate it. Just email me and i’ll let you know what I have planned for a blue print and we can go from there.
ReplyGreat Post! It never ceases to amaze me that you always time your blogs so that they reach all the right people when they need to read them the most. Your timing is incredible. I really wish I was honest with myself as you are in your writing. It is strange that people can lie to themselves when they know the truth.
I usually just tend to forget the offending facts when it is convient to my daily activities. Thanks for setting a Brutal Standard of Honesty that will help everyone deal with their lives and the lies they need to face in their lives. Thanks for all that you do, The world needs more people like you!
Seriously, im not sure how you do it but somehow you always make me feel like I can take on the world and win one victory at a time…powerful stduff, thank you:-)
ReplyWOW – Just read many of the comments above. I am feeling the happiness you give people. This puts my Saturday into perspective. I am going to snowshoe to the top of a mountain right now- not kidding about this- look around and seriously thank myself – cause I am selfish like you! – for reading this today. Funny how things drop into your lap when you really need them! Keep writing- you know your shit! You are the shit and I like it! Thank you,
Rhea
fucking masterpiece. your words remind us all we fit in.
i don’t take my shirt off at pool parties either. i would but i don’t
keep on big guy
maureen
Great Post. . .Even with the Language for us Christian Freaks. . .But its a Great post realistic and Dead set on Internal Truth. . .
ReplyLove your down to earth style. You are easy to identify with. Keep it coming, Chris!
ReplyThere are no words brother… cept, “Boom!” *drops the mic…
I feel tha real is all I’m sayin’…
Thank you.
Dude, what is cool is that you get back to everybody. Amazing read and as a fellow student of life’s lessons and creative minds, am inspired to keep up on my artwork and workouts. Right on.
ReplyYou mentioned your friend Larry…How did he do it? I can understand that kind of childhood to a T and even though I’ve managed to keep strong, keep going…I’m running out of steam. Maybe it’s the age or just that I’m out of room in the crap room in my heart. It wears at the very soul of you. I’m not even sure I have anything left anymore.
ReplyI just stumbled upon your site today while searching for fitness motivation ‘funnies’. I like your raw edge. My forearm tattoo says, Sit Tight Let God.
It’s something to remember while I’m trying to be my own badass self. I look forward to hearing more of your random thoughts!
Hey Chris,
How is it that when I’m at the end of the bottom, I found your Blog!
I work in the Medical field. I frickin love what I do, (I’m told by the Management), that I am an excellent Tech, great skills, Blah! Blah! Blah! Of course that is after a month of being accused of things , that I would not ever even think about doing! Then three weeks later, written up for absenteeism. (So sorry I was stranded in Medford airport for three days) then the final Today, Apparently I am not ready to do my job on time, I’m not paying attention to the case, and I’m talking to much! Oh wait, they ( My director and a Lead) want to know why I drop things on the floor all the time.
I’m so damn depressed already, because it just seems, I don’t know a fucking thing and I’m just a piece of Shit. I should follow that wonderful dream I have had since I was 15! (now 58) just get in the car go to the cliff and fucking gun it you piece of nothingness!!!
Then I came home and asked Google for help! Then I found you and your Blog. Chris I do feel better, I’m not alone with my thoughts and feelings. I am working on that Negativity thing tomorrow. Today
I’m Fucking Pissed Off! I don’t even feel just shit on! I feel that #1 and #2’d on from head to toe!
Tomorrow I will try no Negative crap. But that’s what is in here! Thanks again, Yackiee

Hey thanks for chiming in Jackie. And these: “I don’t know a fucking thing” and “I’m just a piece of Shit” are thoughts I still have all the time. I just do my best not to buy into them. Godspeed.
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