The last thing he wanted was anyone looking in the trunk of his car ….
… Wait a minute, let me back up real quick …
It all started with Gary, a well-built personal trainer from Dallas Texas
After slamming down some tri-tip and beans before his next training session, at the BBQ joint right down the street from his gym, Gary tells the manager about the outstanding service he just received from Lani his waitress
As well as leaving Lani a hefty 30% tip
When the manager tells Lani about the Kudos she’s just received from Gary and she sees the generous tip he left, she’s immediately in good mood.
All fucking smiles.
She WAS having rough day… car troubles and shit I don’t wanna get into, but now, she is… giddy
As she walks to her next table, she smiles at Tom, a young man who’s trying to build up his confidence to ask for the phone number of a girl named Mary, who he just met outside … Mary’s waiting for her friends to come out of the bathroom, so if he doesn’t ask her now, he’ll probably never see her again.
He immediately walks back outside and asks her. She says “yes” … Tom is STOKED… he hasn’t done real well with the ladies before, and it’s something he often beats himself up over… but now he’s not only feeling like a million bucks, he’s actually feeling like TWO million bucks
A few years later Tom and Mary would become husband and wife and have four beautiful children.
… Ah shit, I’m getting ahead of myself again… the kids don’t come for still a few years yet.
At their wedding, Tom’s best man Jake, an aspiring police officer, meets Mary’s best friend Kay…a sweet southern bell with a heart of gold and sassy side… Kay once met Kid Rock, she tells everyone
Jake and Kay dated for a while. Kay was really supportive of Jake becoming a police officer, in fact, without Kay’s support, Jake wasn’t sure he would of made it, you see, Kay’s a good girl, and Jake liked her so much, he was able to temper his wild ways of obsessively chasing after females and getting drunk and shooting off shotguns til daylight out at the lake with his buddies
Being with Kay allowed Jake to slow down enough so Jake could become an officer.
He actually followed Kay from Texas to Los Angeles, so she could become closer to her family who lived in San Bernardino, just outside of LA .
While with the LAPD, going on gut instinct one morning, he pulled over a car for a minor infraction… something just didn’t feel right to him
When approaching the vehicle, Jake had a gnawing feeling in his gut that something was wrong.
The man was on parole, this gave Jake probable cause to search his car.
When he popped the trunk, there lay a 12 year old girl
A 12 year old girl who had been nabbed off the side of the road walking to school not 5 minutes earlier… no one saw it happen, so it could have been a while before anyone found out the girl was missing
Fortunately she was released unharmed
It didn’t take long for her to overcome the trauma of being grabbed off of the side of the road and thrown into the trunk of a car
Not only that, she grew stronger because of it
It took some time, but that little girl grew up into an amazingly confident woman and later started a foundation to educate children and keep them protected from people who may not have their best interests in mind. Her books, pamphlets and educational games are now in schools all across the country.
Tom was recognized as a hero by the department and this gave him the confidence to quickly climb the ranks and eventually run an elite gang squad that was responsible for cleaning up entire an neighborhood in East LA… in fact they cut the crime rate by over 70%
People are finally free to walk down the street without having to worry about dodging flying bullets, being asked who they represent and getting assaulted for something as simple as the color of their t-shirt
And Mitch, the manager of the BBQ Restaurant at the beginning of this story, was so inspired by the gracious kudos that Gary, the well built personal trainer gave Lani the waitress, the next time Gary was in his restaurant, Mitch got to talking to him and became one of his star personal training clients
Mitch lost 60 pounds, which not only gave him the confidence to ask out a woman named Michelle, who he would later marry, but Mitch loved the training so much, he eventually became a personal trainer himself, and just in his first year alone, he was able to help over 50 people to enjoy healthier and happier lives, one man even lost 130 pounds training with him
Today, through his YouTube channel, Mitch inspires people all over the world to get into shape and lead healthier lives through good, sound training and nutrition methods
The above set of events were all set off by Gary’s praising of Lani the waitress, for her amazing service…
… Tom and Mary meeting, getting Married and bringing 4 awesome new little souls into this world. One of their children, Cade would grow up and actually discover a cure to a once thought incurable form of cancer.
… The girl being saved from the trunk and all the little kids her educational materials has helped to learn how to protect themselves from strangers and big people who might wanna cause them harm
… Mitch losing 60 pounds and then helping people all over the world lead happier and healthier lives. As the story goes, Mitch was eventually able to help over 500,000 become happier and healthier.
And many of these people would inspire even MORE people to make various positive changes in their lives.
There’s really no way to quantify just how many people’s lives have been positively affected in the unique way they have by this chain of events
Now, this particular story is a work of fiction, I actually just made it up right now … But the fact is, events, and chains of events, FAR more incredible than these, happen every single day
Reality is intense and down right fucking mind blowing, far beyond anything, anyone, could ever make up
This fictional story is just a tiny glimpse of how one positive thing can lead to a chain of events of other positive things… and I’m convinced, that…
We Set Off Literally MILLIONS of Chains of Events Over the Course of Our Lives
Most people go about this completely unconsciously… but if you REMEMBERED you can bring some awareness into it, and purposely set off chains of events that go far beyond what you can see, feel and touch… how would that change the way you go about your day today?
It is said that most people have over 1000 people within just 3 degrees of separation.
Now, if you’re a blogger, personal trainer, yoga instructor, teacher, author, coach or are in any number of positions that allows you to reach a lot of people … you probably have tens of thousands of people or more within just 3 degrees of you
Now imagine going to degree 4, 5 or 6.
Six is the number of people we’re supposedly away from anybody in world, meaning no two people are more than 6 people apart from one another… not sure if long lost tribes of cannibalistic pygmies factor into this… but I think most of them actually do
And with Facebook, supposedly any person’s profile is only as far as 4.74 degrees away from any other person’s profile
There isn’t a person you can’t reach
EVERYTHING we do, effects everything else… as well as the people on this planet as a whole
The choices we make and actions we take echo into the 7 billion plus souls in ways we will never know.
Be cool and smile at people
Listen to people and make them feel important
Encourage your friends when they’re down on the ground… broken, bruised and bleeding. Help them get back up.
Hand back that extra $20 the cashier at the gas station accidentally gave you
Stop and help that little old lady across the street
Choose a career path or hobby that ignites the fire deep inside you, lets you be the bad-ass you know you are and allows you to help others achieve greater levels of awesomeness… I promise you, doing this, will in turn, allow YOU to lead a happy or fulfilled life
Bust out spontaneous acts of kindness on people
I’m convinced that if someone say abuses another, that abuse can have an effect on the way things are 500 years down the road… I’ve seen the cycle of abuse get handed down from one generation to the next, and it’s not pretty… not to say something good can’t come out of it… and it’s not the cycle can’t be broken
Now, the same is true when you help someone. If you, let’s say, help someone overcome weight issues, self-esteem issues, help them to truly examine their life, overcome an addiction… or even just have a better day… the ripple can be felt for centuries to come
While I think it’s true we’re really not much more than tiny grains of sand on one of infinite beaches, the imprint we’re leaving is bigger and more powerful than we can ever fully comprehend
Every little action, whether it be a small act of kindness or something emanating from our inner asshole, has a power to it… and its effects linger far longer than our physical bodies will
The more good shit we do, the more we’re able to mold not only our own future, but the futures of unknown lives in unknown ways for a number of unknown years
If you’ve been stuck at some job you hate, doing work that doesn’t fulfill you and working for some dude you can’t stand….
I challenge you to go out and do that shit you’re passionate about...
… You’ll have a much greater impact on this world if you do
Making a difference doesn’t only come from working the soup kitchen line and putting money towards good causes
It comes from doing that shit you love to do… and doing it with everything in you
Being stuck at a job you hate with a boss you can’t stand is putting your soul in a straight jacket
Working hard is a noble thing… but make sure you’re doing the work you love to do
That Love then moves through and your impact on the world will be of great proportion in comparison with your regrets
I don’t care if it’s taking people through workouts, pouring your soul onto a canvas or building houses
Wasting away in some cubicle, like a body in a tomb, ain’t doing you, or anyone else, one damn bit of good
Now, if you like what you’re doing in your cubicle, then that’s great… but be sure to rock that mother fucker… the world will be a better place for it… be the cubicle fucking master
Personally, finding what I love doing has been an evolution…
At age 32 I worked in a print shop and HATED it… I was nothing but a number, helping to make the owner of the company a wealthy woman… and I did stuff all day I couldn’t stand doing, surrounded by a bunch of other people who didn’t wanna be there doing a bunch of stuff they couldn’t stand doing either
And I just knew, it bothered me more than anyone else there
At the time I was in fantastic shape… chiseled six pack, veins everywhere, the whole deal
I prayed about what I should do, I just basically got on my knees and asked what should I be doing for a living
And the trippiest shit started to happen…
… Over the course of about a week, I don’t think a day went by without some random person looking at me, asking me what I did to get into shape, and then they would do one of two things…
Either asking if I was a personal trainer,
Or tell me I should be one
Now keep in mind, these were just random people, like in line at the store, and there was no talk of career path or anything like that… it was almost as if they just blurt it out to me
It was pretty obvious what I was supposed to do… I became a trainer
Loved it … it was the first time in my life I made good money LEGALLY
After a few years, my introverted and creative sides kicked in and I decided I wanted to work from home selling my own information products
So I did… I started teaching trainers how to get more clients, something I was really good at
I LOVE working with people in the fitness industry…. personal trainers are the most awesome bunch of people in the world
And I dig being an info-marketer… but I wasn’t really writing the kind of stuff I wanted to write about
Writing about how to get more clients and make more money, pretty much every day, for the better part of 5 years, can get a little dry
And when you write about that stuff, you shouldn’t really be talking about drugs, dropping F-bombs and admitting the real dark shit that lurks deep down inside of you
Teaching the marketing stuff pays my bills, but my spirit longed for something more
In the quote un-quote “guru” world, it’s like there’s a constant facade you’re supposed to maintain of having your shit together
What’s funny is, once I dropped that part of the job description, I started to enjoy what I do soooooo much more
Like everyone in life, sometimes I go through some intense stuff… stuff that’s caused me to dig deep and “Rise Above” parts of myself that aren’t all that pretty
And I find the more I’m open and honest about it all, the happier I am
My writing serves, not only as a form of therapy to me, but also as a way for me transmutate some of the shit I go through and hard lessons I learn, into not only a journey of personal evolution, but something I’m able to share with others in a way that helps them as well
I love info-marketing, and I LOVE helping trainers help more people, but I’ve come to the conclusion that the whole “guru” thing just ain’t for me
After making a bunch of money, I came to the deep realization that money has nothing to do with happiness, something I’ve been told but had to realize for myself, and that I’ll never be happy playing “guru-dude”, traveling around speaking at big events, trying to be on top of my game all the time and trying to suppress the true life and gritty shit I wanna write about
I felt like an artist’s soul trapped in a business-marketing-coach-guru’s job
Once in a while I would bust out a post on my fitness marketing blog that just seemed to pour outta my soul, usually having nothing to do with getting more clients or making money, and these posts were some of my most popular and well-liked posts, but more importantly, these are the kinds of the posts I REALLY enjoy writing
So the decision was a no brainier…. start this blog and write about the shit I wanna write about
I can’t even begin to tell you how much fun I’m having with this stuff… I’ve never felt so fulfilled
As I’ve evolved, from miserable print shop worker… to personal trainer… to info marketer … to writer who just writes about the shit he wants to write about, the serendipitous experiences that let me know I’m on the right path, have been outta of this world and will beat any good peyote / magic mushroom / DMT story you’ve got
And I’m BEYOND grateful to be doing things that continue to help people in bigger and greater ways
At the print shop I was just taking up space and trading hours for dollars… it basically all came down to just getting a check
The training business allowed me to help people in my local area to become happier and healthier… and those people inevitably had some kind of positive impact on the people around them, even inspiring some of them to eat better and workout… and then some of those people inspired even more people.
Plus, when people get healthy they usually live longer and because they’re in a better mood from the good foods and hard training sessions, they’re usually cooler to the people around them … both things that have an affect on the people in their lives
Then the info business has allowed me to help trainers all over the world get more clients, so THEY can help get more people to become healthier and happier
And then those people inevitably had some kind of positive impact on the people around them, maybe even inspiring some of them to eat better and workout… and some of those people most likely inspired even MORE people.. plus there’s all kinds of people living longer and being cooler to the people around them… these are people I will never meet, but their lives are having some form of positive effect, from the trainers who buy my stuff and read my blog
How cool is that? Get’s me pumped… I’m feeling like Richard Simmons right now… a sassy Richard Simmons with a goatee and shaved head
And now, with this ChrisMcCombs.Net blog I’ve got going, some of the stuff I write is actually able to open up people’s minds to new ways of looking at things, remind them of what’s important in life and even inspire them to do some awesome stuff or even better, be a more awesome person than they already are
Be awesome and do awesome stuff… can’t beat that
And again, as they enjoy some sort of positive change in their lives, they’ll inevitably have a positive effect on the people around them, and many of those people will have a positive effect on even more people… and again… and again… on down the line
I’m highly intrinsically motivated these days… In fact, I would make WAY more money if I quit working on silly blog posts like this one and spent all my time on my fitness marketing business, helping trainers to make more money
But I’m WAY happier doing this
I’ll take the pay cut any day of the week to be able to spend my time doing what I love
Money just doesn’t motivate me all that much… I’d rather make a fraction of what I could, but be able to spend my days doing what I love, which is writing about the kinda shit I wanna write about
I could have just as easily rotted away in that print shop for the rest of my life, right along side those old printing machines… just sitting there, doing our job and getting old and curmudgeony together
Or I could go do what my soul wants me to do.
Keep in mind, I never intended to help ANYONE, I’m a pretty selfish and self-centered person by nature
I just do the shit I wanna do deep inside and it all works out… I’m happier, others are happier and it’s a win deal all the way around
When you do THAT, the good stuff just seems to follow
And if what science tells us is true, and we’re all connected… than what I do to you, I also do to myself
I speak experience on this one, at times when I held deep resentments, those resentments ate me alive… doing far greater damage to me than anyone else
( I’m still not totally above getting resentments, I just deal with them differently and don’t let them creep about in my head too long )
During other times, when I was able to impact people in positive ways, MY LIFE got way more awesome and fulfilling in the process
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.”
It All Starts With Tiny Ripples
Every action you take, habit you form and word that comes out of your mouth makes a difference not only for you, but the entire world
That’s how fucking powerful you are!
If I get up, down an ECA stack and Monster Energy Drink, crank a Slayer album, slam some Jack Daniels and a doughnut, think about some shit that bothers me including that dude that’s been really pissing me off lately, jump into my email box and give myself to the mercy and expectations of others, and then head over to the strip club for the lunch hour “two for one drinks and dance bonanza hour” … and then go beat someone up for no good reason
I’m giving myself, as well as others, a WHOLE different life experience, compared to if I …
Get up, pray, meditate, hit the gym, and slam a veggie juice with some lean protein and fish caps, bust out a random act of kindness bomb on someone and then go to work doing what I love, whatever that thing may be, for me it’s writing
Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve cranked Slayer all the way back to like 83′ or 84’… so I definitely ain’t telling anyone what they should and shouldn’t listen to… in fact I used to go to sleep listening to Slayer’s first album “Show No Mercy” on my over-sized cassette-player walk-man thingy back when I was like 14, and I’m 42 now…
… And to this day, I still crank heavy shit like that when I train… the big weights just seem to pop up so much easier.
I mean, not too many good heavy bands, be it metal or hip-hop, who’s lyrics are all that positive.
And honestly, I have no interest in a life of nothing but rainbows and butterflies… I need a little “crunch” to keep things interesting
All I’m saying is, everything we do makes a difference in our lives and the lives of everyone we touch, as well as the lives of the people they touch, and on down the line
Everything we do effects everything else
All the little shit adds up, and the sum total is FAR greater than we could ever come close to imagining
So I challenge you… what are you gonna do today?
What awesome stuff are you gonna do that’s gonna impact your life, the lives of the people you know and the people they know?
The future of your blood line for hundreds of years to come?
Maybe you’ve always wanted to paint or write or work with the abused… but you’ve just never found the perfect time to get started
Well now is that fucking time
It all starts with one step
Every action you take in the direction of your desired destiny, compounds on top of every other action, and works to set off chains of events that charge forward for you like armies that know no such thing as defeat… and as you move forward, you help other people move forward as well… even if just by your simple example
So again, I challenge you… what are you gonna do today?
Are you gonna continue settle for that dead-end job you’re comfortable with?
Or go start that business or career you’ve always wanted to, where you can thrive, live your passion and share your love of what you do with the world?
How can you better help people in your own unique way?
Is there some non-profit or good-cause you’ve wanted to give your time to but just haven’t got around to it?
Maybe you’ve wanted to start a blog or write a book about YOUR experiences and what other people can learn from them
Well sit down and write that shit
That’s usually the toughest part… just sitting down and fucking doing it
Maybe it’s as simple as the daily practice of doing random cool shit for people and seeing where that takes you
It starts with day one
There’s something that comes from that creative, passionate and purposeful place inside you that is just waiting to be let out of it’s fucking cage.. a giant within you ready to awaken.
Well today is the day my friend
There’s some unique gift you have that the world is just waiting for you to share with it, in a way no one else can
I don’t know what it is
But I do know, that you have the power within you to change the entire world.
And remember, if simple words of praise can lead to a little girl being saved from the trunk of a car … just imagine what’s possible, when you let your Inner Giant out of it’s cage, so it can rise up and do some seriously awesome shit
What we do in life echoes in eternity.
The story at the beginning of this post is fictional, any similarities between it and real people and circumstances is purely coincidence.
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